Every so often one must go through a purge. Because I have so many sex toys I have to get rid of them from time to time. Above is a crappy cellphone pic of all the toys I am sending off to be recycled. I realize that what I am getting rid of is bigger than most people’s entire collection. But the truth is that I think I bought only one or two of those toys. I am a choosy buyer and will normally only get toys that I know I will really like.
Some of these toys have very fond memories and some of them have only been used once or twice. One has never been used (damn duplicates). A couple are the only vibes my wife brought into our relationship. They have never been used since we moved in together. After all, why would she want to use those when she has access to my entire collection? Most of the toys were given to me for review, but keep in mind that just because I don’t like something doesn’t mean you won’t. And truth be told, I did really like some of these, but I’ve replaced them with better toys. Or maybe my vagina has just gotten pickier.
I thought I had a lot more to get rid of, but I purged most of the worst toys (jelly awfulness) in the last go around.
I am a little reluctant to get rid of the green silicone g-spotter dildo, but it has a taint tapper and as aag said recently, I am delicately tainted.
In a recent comment a reader asked: I am curios about anal sex. Me and my husband discuss it but we are waiting on the right time. I was wondering what is the best position for beginners?
Many beginners to anal sex find that it is easiest to start where the person who is being penetrated anally is on top. So think of the cowgirl position, but up the butt instead of in the vagina. Reverse cowgirl would work fine as well. The reason that this can often be the best position for beginners is because the person who is on the receiving end has more control over depth, speed, and angle. You can ease that cock or dildo in as quickly or as slowly as you’d like … although I’d suggest slowly since you’re beginners.
Another option if you’re having a difficult time relaxing is to have the receiver laying on their back, but with their hips and legs supported with pillows. This allows the receiver to relax more, but also gives up a lot of the control. If you and your partner trust each other and have really good communication skills during sex this could be a great option.
No matter what you do though, remember to use lots of lube, warm up with fingers and/or butt plugs, and be patient. Porno ass sex is all pretty staged. You can’t just start fucking an ass gung ho like that. Those performers warmed up beforehand.
For more beginner anal sex tips check out my post here.
In case you were wondering, the Twitter pornoparty was a roaring success. It was a ton of fun and I think we are planning on doing it monthly. Sinclair Sexsmith requested a movie with ladies doing it and I know that we both have Strapped Dykes so I nominate that one. But we’ll only be able to watch one disc because that flick is 4 friggin hours long.
Hey y’all! We’re gonna have a twitter porno party tomorrow (Wednesday) at 9PM EST/ 6PM PST and you should join us! We’ll be watching Fluid: Men Redefining Sexuality and live tweeting about it. It looks like the hashtag will probably be either #fluidmen or #pornoparty. I’m kind of rooting for the second one. It would be fun to make this a semi-regular thing and always use #pornoparty as the tag.
And look for my review of this Feminist porn award winner soon!
Another installment of my Ethical Pornographer column just went up. This one features the smart and sexy Dylan Ryan. Whenever I hear this song I think of her:
I could probably write an entire blog post just about why this song reminds me of Dylan, but I don’t want to do that because I don’t actually know her as a person. But basically, in my mind she’s a strong woman who deserves a lot of respect and what I gathered from Fluid: Women Redefining Sexuality is that she likes to reclaim words. She has reclaimed ho and I could totally see her reclaiming “sexy bitch” and giving it an awesome positive attitude.
Anyhoo, here’s a snippet from the interview:
I do enjoy performing with a wide variety of people and that I do is completely intentional. As a person, I feel a lot of pride about being queer identified and feel it important that the understandings of what queer is be more broad. I resist being pigeonholed in general but also want to represent a more fluid sexuality that feels available to all people. I guess I strive for it and it comes naturally, I just enjoy sex and want to promote a sexuality that is open and accessible. Lately I have been getting to choose who I work with, especially in doing boy/girl porn. It’s fun to be able to choose because as I mentioned earlier, I know who is professional and has a reputation for shooting great scenes and being pleasant to work with. I also have people in the business that I admire and want to work with at some point so getting to choose those people is always great. I am also flexible and enjoy working with people who are booked, which is how it happens most often. Again, I have been very lucky that I have really enjoyed a lot of the people I have shot with, that’s the benefit of working with companies you love, they hire great people and you make new acquaintances that way.
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