Men Wearing Strap-ons

I saw on Babeland and Early2Bed that strapons can be used by males, too. Other than in the case of Erectile Function Disorder, why would men use these? Is this a widespread activity among men?

There are a few different reasons that cisgendered men (or individuals born with a male body) would want to use a strap-on. One of them, is for ED like you mentioned. Another is for double penetration like with the Menage a Trois Fantasy Kit that I reviewed back in April.

Some men also just like the idea of not having to worry about whether or not their dick is hard and how long they can last. They may not have ED, but they just really want to fuck their partner until the wee hours of the morning. Or maybe this man has a partner who just loves his dick to pieces, but would like to try something a little different now and again. And instead of just using a dildo in hand, this guy likes to use his hips. And I’m sure there are still even more reasons that men would want to use strap-ons.

For any men who are interested in a harness that will leave room for their junk I would recommend the Menage a Trois Fantasy Kit for double penetration, or a harness that sits a bit higher up like The Crown Harness or The Commando Harness. Or if you’re open to sprouting cocks from your legs you can also try out a thigh harness.

Is it widespread? From my experience working in a sex shop I’d say that it isn’t too widespread. I do have cis men ask for strap-ons, but nowhere near as often as women and trans men.

34 comments to Men Wearing Strap-ons

  • Phil

    Finally – someone who is willing to even talk about this. I’m one of thoes men who likes to do their wife with a strapon. There are two main reasons. The first is that it garantees an orgasm. Imagine being able to bring your wife/partner to orgasm every single time you have sex – frequently multiple times. Imagine being able to go for “as long as it takes” every single time, staying just as hard the entire time. The second reason is that I just LOVE the sensation of “sloppy seconds” – after the strapon has been in her vagina is stretched creating a velvety smooth and lubricated experience. I’ve come to love that sensation so much that it is hard to cum by entering my wife while she is still tight.

    So now we both look forward to using a strapon EVERY time we have sex. I normally take two or so days to be able to get horny again after I cum so on most weekends I’ll do her Saturday but I won’t get to follow (I won’t cum). That way I will want sex again on Sunday. Depending on holidays and how she feels, I can go days without just to make sure I can keep doing her every day.

    I think the key thing is that I love the way she orgasms so much that seeng her orgasm hard is somehow more rewarding than my own. Yes… I enjoy making her orgasm more than making me orgasm.

    So there is definately a kink to it. The fact that the strapons I wear are bigger (6-8 inch) than I am (5 1/4 inch) is a turn-on and makes me feel powerful.

    Surprisingly you quickly get a feel for the strapon and you can feel it penetrating, you can feel how far in you are inserting the dildo and you can feel as you partner expands to take it. After a while you can even feel the head rubbing along your partner’s g-spot. Just try that with a penis!!

    Here are some tips that we have learnt with time:
    1. Get a vibrating one.
    2. Get a 6 inch strapon (at least to start with).
    3. Get a little variety.

  • Garnet Joyce

    Phil,

    Thank you so much for sharing your experiences.

  • Phil

    No – thank you again for posting a real (honest0 answer. Your explanation sums it up accurately.

  • Anonymous

    Great comments Phil. I was getting erectile issues so started using a hollow one. Best thing I ever did. I should have used one years ago.

    John

  • Garnet Joyce

    So happy that men are sharing their experiences here!

  • TJ

    I did this for the first time the other day with AMAZING results.
    My girlfriend has frequently brought up wanting double penetration, and we tried it with another guy one time but it was logistically kind of difficult.
    Anyway, I wore the strap on a few inches above my cock, and started with my real cock in her vagina, then used the strap on in her vagina, then back to my cock, then back to the strap on, etc…
    Once she was way beyond turned on, I double penetrated her (the bigger dildo in her vagina and my cock in her ass). Apparently every one of her roomates in the three story building heard her scream, gasps, and moans (because they congratulated me on 'whatever it was I did' later that day).
    Afterwords, she ended up getting emotional and crying for about an hour and saying it was the best sex she'd ever had.

    I recommended any man (whos woman enjoys anal penetration) who wants to give his woman great pleasure, to give this a try.

  • Anonymous

    I am a married tgirl lesbian and my wife and i both wear strapons when we want to be penetrated which isn't all the time. Sometimes we use vibrators and other toys. Neither of us needs something in us to achieve an orgasm. I wear a strapon because as a (woman)I don't have the ability to get hard. We use strapons like any other lesbian couple would.
    Just another reason to wear one.

  • Bekka

    Just a note to TJ alternating penetration from vagina to ass an back can be very unhealthy, when you do, either wash or use condoms when going from vagina to her back door. Other than that it sounds like an very memorable experience.

  • slavetoby

    My wife L controlls everything in our relationship,including me. I have been in a chastity device for years. And of course she has the only keys.L has had me purchase hallow strap-ons, and at times i must use these to make sure that she gets all the orgasms she wants and i get none

  • Phil

    It’s just a real shame there isn’t more porn out there for this. Whenever I search for it this page is about the only one other than women doing women or women doing men.

    I’d pay for a site that had this type of content.

  • Maybe talk to some independent porn makers and see if they’re willing to make it for you? I bet cocksexual would be interested in doing something like that or even crashpadseries. I think both of them would see it as a way to queer traditionally hetero sex.

  • Phil

    Thanks – an email has been sent to both.

  • Phil

    And boy – were those sites hot or what? Crashpad’s free intro had me steaming up.

  • I wouldn’t steer you wrong Phil. If you do end up signing up for either of those sites I’d love it if you did it through clicking on one of my links to the side there –>. They give me a small percentage of signups that I send their way.

  • Really interesting. I don’t think this is something I ever would have thought on by myself, which to me just goes to show how much importance with put on the cock in hetero sex. I can imagine a lot of hetero cis men reacting badly to their partner wanting them to wear a strap-on (i.e. because of classic ideas of masculinity and such), but this post and the comments do a great job of showing that is not the case and how both partners can enjoy “a man” using a strap-on. Awesome.

  • Phil

    I think it comes down to being secure in yourself. If you are, then you can take pleasure in it and pleasure from your partner’s pleasure. If you aren’t you would probably freak out at the thought of it and wonder “why would I do that – what pleasure’s in it for me”.

  • Phil (and others) a friend of mine just reviewed this cock and I wonder if you would enjoy something like this: http://www.redsneakerdiaries.com/?p=753

  • Phil

    Thanks but no thanks. My partner definately needs the vibrations. Plus I don’t want to cum before she does and this transfers sensation.

    I still use the same straponsI used to (with condoms). The ones you suggested previously don’t look “real” enough – which is part of the turn on.

    I’m always keeping an eye out. I’m also glad to see this is one of your most popular articles!!!

  • It’s really unfortunate that they don’t make good quality strongly vibrating dildos that can be strapped. The market is definitely in need!

    This article is pretty popular, but mostly for commenters. The most popular posts don’t have much in the way of comments and mostly have to do with how to give blowjobs and have anal sex.

  • westburbscouple

    Many thanks for this subject. My wife and I both LOVE having sex with me wearing a strap-on harness. For us, it’s a size issue. I’m an average-sized man (about 5″ and normal girth…maybe an inch) but my wife prefers much larger (her favorite dildo is 8″ in usable length and 2″ thick). For my part, I absolutely love the feeling of my wife being very loose.

    Like Phil and his wife, this is an every-time thing, rather than simply an occasional kink. Frankly, I’d never want to go back, nor would my wife. When she tells me that she can’t wait to fuck my brains out, it’s understood that I’ll be wearing the harness. She has crazy-intense multiple orgasms with regularity. After she’s completely spent, I get to finish off inside her. By the time I penetrate her with my own dick, she’s totally fulfilled. At that point, she’s physically and emotionally spent from multiple orgasms. As she’s “coming down” or completely spent from her sexual high, she’s in a bit of cuddle-mode as I grunt in full-on lust. It’s a very, very sexy dynamic. Eye contact makes this dynamic particularly erotic. She’s satiated and watching with idle curiosity as I breathlessly — and ineffectively — thrust. A knowing and understanding smile, even a friendly giggle, usually puts me over the top.

  • Phil

    Great to hear there are others out there doing this. When I get to penetrate afterwards I call it “silky seconds”. When it’s my turn to finish off it only takes me about 20 seconds to reach orgasm because I’m already on the edge by the time my attached penis enters.

    You’re lucky that she has multiple orgasms, my wife will always cum once, and maybe every couple of months might be able to cum a second time. Normally – if we try – she will get close the second time but can’t quite get there. Trying for too long is likely to leave her soar, so we normally leave it at the one orgasm and don’t try for a second.

    Recently we went on holiday and for the first time in about 5 years I used my attached penis without using my strapon one first. Obviously I helped her cum first, and so she was very well lubed, but even so the feeling was VERY different. It was somewhat awkward and I really didn’t enjoy it that much and it took ages to cum. We tried it again the next night and again I couldn’t get as deep and it didn’t feel as empowering. I just couldn’t get to the right spots if that makes sense. It just didn’t feel like fucking. So we gave up on penetrative sex until we got home. Next time I think I’ll pack the strapon and stuff the embarrassment at the airport.

  • westburbscouple

    Thanks, Phil. It’s cool hearing that other couples engage in this as well. My wife are I read all through the comments and original post with great interest.

    For us, the most important thing was coming to grips with the fact that we — or rather, our private parts — no longer fit together like puzzle pieces. It was also important for me to make her feel completely comfortable about her needs, so that she didn’t feel embarrassed or self-conscious. I would say that after the first time, we were hooked for good. Her orgasms are off the charts, and we’re as close emotionally as we’ve ever been. I can’t describe the mutual ecstasy of being locked in embrace as I thrust inside her with much more “manhood” than I can muster myself. In return, I get to enjoy the used and loose feeling that I find mind-boggingly hot.

    A related kink that we also sometimes enjoy is my semi-regular use of a male chastity device. When I get home from traveling on Thursday evenings, she frequently (but not always) locks me into a CB-6000S (look it up if you don’t know what it is) and keeps me in it for most or all of the weekend. I pleasure her throughout the weekend while wearing the strap-on harness, but without orgasming myself. By Friday I find myself climbing all over her like a newlywed hubby. I wear (and would personally recommend) the Orion harness, which is made for use by men and accommodates — but doesn’t require — use of a male chastity device.

    The chastity thing may not be everyone’s idea of fun, but it works for us. As far as the strap-on harness, it has been indispensable. We LOVE it, and our sex life has improved dramatically. As far as my wife and I are concerned, bigger is (a lot) better.

    Bottom line: you have to be a pretty big man to admit that you’re not a big enough man :)

  • breat

    I like The Crown Harness but the babeland store doesn’t have service outside US & Canada.Can i get pointers where i can find same product for Europe, please?

    br-breat

  • Early to Bed ships most places, but you’ll have to pay international shipping charges and possibly some hefty taxes. Love Honey is an option. They are in the UK although they have an overabundance to choose from and therefore have a lot of crap. But it looks like there’s some good stuff too http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/s.cfm?term=harnesses

  • breat

    Thanks for responding to my request…But am looking for something that sits a bit higher up for my cock like The Crown Harness …So i can use my penis and dildo eg. double penetration .
    br
    breat

  • Phil

    Thanks westburbscouple.

    A word of warning though – it becomes a bit addictive, twists you and ruins you for normal sex.

    This past weekend it was raining so we spent the entire weekend in bed watching movies and fucking like rabbits. It was fantastic, passionate sex. The type that leaves you soar and exhausted the next day.

    The twisted bit is that my wife and I have regular sex but I’ve stopped penetrating her. I used to penetrate her at the end of sex to cum. I stopped because I realised that although I was orgasming I was finding penetration with my own tackle very frustrating it felt softer, shorter, thinner and non vibrating. The orgasm became an anti-climax. Don’t get me wrong, I love the silky smooth feeling after she has had a dildo inside her, but the frustration of not being able to penetrate very far was just too much.

    Instead my wife will give me an amazing hand job. I can’t wait for this weekend.

  • Phil

    Hi. I thought I’d give an update. I’ve now gone over 12 months with only using a strapon on my wife. We call it my “big dick” now since it’s the only one we use. We call the other attached one “that little thing” which we both find funny.

    I wouldn’t swap using a strapon for my dick again. My wife has offered a couple of times but happily accepts that this our way of making love. It’s now been on holidays with us several times.

    I’m also finding that although we make love 3-4 times a week I’m only feeling the need to orgasm every month or so, staying happily horny the rest of the time.

  • Peter

    Having tried all manner of treatments fo ED to no avail (which has not been a major issue, as I’ve had not woman in my life since my divorce), I have always wanted to know how women would feel about my using a strap-on. Having made women’s sexual desires a major part of love-making, I can say the the ED does not affect my own desire to have sex, and being with a woman that is responding blissfully to sex is a major turn-on and one of the best experiences life can offer! Do you women out there think that a woman of 45+ could be in a lenthgy relationship with a man who loves to give oral, touch, cuddle, and go at it with passion with a strap on?

  • I tried this one with my boyfriend and we both had a lot of fun and pleasure http://sexypleasure.co.uk/dildos-and-dongs/classic-dildos/tantus-charmer-silicone-dildo

  • Hosice

    I tried strap-on with my wife several times and both of us enjoyed. As closet crossdresser and bisexual woman, we sometimes performed full lesbian sex which included strap-on as a fact of our only penetration. I fuck her, she fuck me! Unbelievable feeling!

  • Mr. E

    I use a strap on with my wife about every second time we have sex. I also love the feeling of going inside after. Silky seconds is a good discription. I have no ED & am of an average size. Too me it is just the best way to use a dildo. I sometimes cum while using as the thrusting & pumping are the same and it is so hot to use. Any couple that has a sex toy should try using a strap on. I love it when my wife requests it. Such a turn on knowing she wants me to use a penis twice as thick as mine.

  • Strapped

    I use one more often than not. I always use my own as well. It’s a good combo. I like penetration better after she’s been seen to with “mr. Big”. Then I usually switch back and forth. I think my wife thought it was a little weird at first. But now if I don’t grab it she’ll say something About forgetting the strap on. I think it’s kind of addicting, for both of us.

  • Open Minded Hubby

    I love to use one on my wife. I am very average and she loves to get it doggy style with the Mr Marcus dildo, its 9″ long and 2″ wide. I use the Ultra Harness with it because it has a cutout for my stuff. Its such a sight to see her tight little white pussy swallow the entire thing to the balls. I can ram her hard, and make her cum every time, usually several times. She now asks to be fucked by the big black dick, and im only so happy to oblige. The sounds she makes are animal like, and seeing her cream all over that thick black shaft is sometimes more than I can bear. Im very secure, and we have been together for 23 years. I cant be replaced by a toy, so im not worried a bit.

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