I saw on Babeland and Early2Bed that strapons can be used by males, too. Other than in the case of Erectile Function Disorder, why would men use these? Is this a widespread activity among men?
There are a few different reasons that cisgendered men (or individuals born with a male body) would want to use a strap-on. One of them, is for ED like you mentioned. Another is for double penetration like with the Menage a Trois Fantasy Kit that I reviewed back in April.
Some men also just like the idea of not having to worry about whether or not their dick is hard and how long they can last. They may not have ED, but they just really want to fuck their partner until the wee hours of the morning. Or maybe this man has a partner who just loves his dick to pieces, but would like to try something a little different now and again. And instead of just using a dildo in hand, this guy likes to use his hips. And I’m sure there are still even more reasons that men would want to use strap-ons.
For any men who are interested in a harness that will leave room for their junk I would recommend the Menage a Trois Fantasy Kit for double penetration, or a harness that sits a bit higher up like The Crown Harness or The Commando Harness. Or if you’re open to sprouting cocks from your legs you can also try out a thigh harness.
Is it widespread? From my experience working in a sex shop I’d say that it isn’t too widespread. I do have cis men ask for strap-ons, but nowhere near as often as women and trans men.
Finally – someone who is willing to even talk about this. I’m one of thoes men who likes to do their wife with a strapon. There are two main reasons. The first is that it garantees an orgasm. Imagine being able to bring your wife/partner to orgasm every single time you have sex – frequently multiple times. Imagine being able to go for “as long as it takes” every single time, staying just as hard the entire time. The second reason is that I just LOVE the sensation of “sloppy seconds” – after the strapon has been in her vagina is stretched creating a velvety smooth and lubricated experience. I’ve come to love that sensation so much that it is hard to cum by entering my wife while she is still tight.
So now we both look forward to using a strapon EVERY time we have sex. I normally take two or so days to be able to get horny again after I cum so on most weekends I’ll do her Saturday but I won’t get to follow (I won’t cum). That way I will want sex again on Sunday. Depending on holidays and how she feels, I can go days without just to make sure I can keep doing her every day.
I think the key thing is that I love the way she orgasms so much that seeng her orgasm hard is somehow more rewarding than my own. Yes… I enjoy making her orgasm more than making me orgasm.
So there is definately a kink to it. The fact that the strapons I wear are bigger (6-8 inch) than I am (5 1/4 inch) is a turn-on and makes me feel powerful.
Surprisingly you quickly get a feel for the strapon and you can feel it penetrating, you can feel how far in you are inserting the dildo and you can feel as you partner expands to take it. After a while you can even feel the head rubbing along your partner’s g-spot. Just try that with a penis!!
Here are some tips that we have learnt with time:
1. Get a vibrating one.
2. Get a 6 inch strapon (at least to start with).
3. Get a little variety.
Phil,
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences.
No – thank you again for posting a real (honest0 answer. Your explanation sums it up accurately.
Great comments Phil. I was getting erectile issues so started using a hollow one. Best thing I ever did. I should have used one years ago.
John
So happy that men are sharing their experiences here!
I did this for the first time the other day with AMAZING results.
My girlfriend has frequently brought up wanting double penetration, and we tried it with another guy one time but it was logistically kind of difficult.
Anyway, I wore the strap on a few inches above my cock, and started with my real cock in her vagina, then used the strap on in her vagina, then back to my cock, then back to the strap on, etc…
Once she was way beyond turned on, I double penetrated her (the bigger dildo in her vagina and my cock in her ass). Apparently every one of her roomates in the three story building heard her scream, gasps, and moans (because they congratulated me on 'whatever it was I did' later that day).
Afterwords, she ended up getting emotional and crying for about an hour and saying it was the best sex she'd ever had.
I recommended any man (whos woman enjoys anal penetration) who wants to give his woman great pleasure, to give this a try.
I am a married tgirl lesbian and my wife and i both wear strapons when we want to be penetrated which isn't all the time. Sometimes we use vibrators and other toys. Neither of us needs something in us to achieve an orgasm. I wear a strapon because as a (woman)I don't have the ability to get hard. We use strapons like any other lesbian couple would.
Just another reason to wear one.
Just a note to TJ alternating penetration from vagina to ass an back can be very unhealthy, when you do, either wash or use condoms when going from vagina to her back door. Other than that it sounds like an very memorable experience.
My wife L controlls everything in our relationship,including me. I have been in a chastity device for years. And of course she has the only keys.L has had me purchase hallow strap-ons, and at times i must use these to make sure that she gets all the orgasms she wants and i get none
It’s just a real shame there isn’t more porn out there for this. Whenever I search for it this page is about the only one other than women doing women or women doing men.
I’d pay for a site that had this type of content.
Maybe talk to some independent porn makers and see if they’re willing to make it for you? I bet cocksexual would be interested in doing something like that or even crashpadseries. I think both of them would see it as a way to queer traditionally hetero sex.
Thanks – an email has been sent to both.
And boy – were those sites hot or what? Crashpad’s free intro had me steaming up.
I wouldn’t steer you wrong Phil. If you do end up signing up for either of those sites I’d love it if you did it through clicking on one of my links to the side there –>. They give me a small percentage of signups that I send their way.
Really interesting. I don’t think this is something I ever would have thought on by myself, which to me just goes to show how much importance with put on the cock in hetero sex. I can imagine a lot of hetero cis men reacting badly to their partner wanting them to wear a strap-on (i.e. because of classic ideas of masculinity and such), but this post and the comments do a great job of showing that is not the case and how both partners can enjoy “a man” using a strap-on. Awesome.
I think it comes down to being secure in yourself. If you are, then you can take pleasure in it and pleasure from your partner’s pleasure. If you aren’t you would probably freak out at the thought of it and wonder “why would I do that – what pleasure’s in it for me”.
Phil (and others) a friend of mine just reviewed this cock and I wonder if you would enjoy something like this: http://www.redsneakerdiaries.com/?p=753