I wouldn’t swap using a strapon for my dick again. My wife has offered a couple of times but happily accepts that this our way of making love. It’s now been on holidays with us several times.

I’m also finding that although we make love 3-4 times a week I’m only feeling the need to orgasm every month or so, staying happily horny the rest of the time.

A word of warning though – it becomes a bit addictive, twists you and ruins you for normal sex.

This past weekend it was raining so we spent the entire weekend in bed watching movies and fucking like rabbits. It was fantastic, passionate sex. The type that leaves you soar and exhausted the next day.

The twisted bit is that my wife and I have regular sex but I’ve stopped penetrating her. I used to penetrate her at the end of sex to cum. I stopped because I realised that although I was orgasming I was finding penetration with my own tackle very frustrating it felt softer, shorter, thinner and non vibrating. The orgasm became an anti-climax. Don’t get me wrong, I love the silky smooth feeling after she has had a dildo inside her, but the frustration of not being able to penetrate very far was just too much.

Instead my wife will give me an amazing hand job. I can’t wait for this weekend.

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For us, the most important thing was coming to grips with the fact that we — or rather, our private parts — no longer fit together like puzzle pieces. It was also important for me to make her feel completely comfortable about her needs, so that she didn’t feel embarrassed or self-conscious. I would say that after the first time, we were hooked for good. Her orgasms are off the charts, and we’re as close emotionally as we’ve ever been. I can’t describe the mutual ecstasy of being locked in embrace as I thrust inside her with much more “manhood” than I can muster myself. In return, I get to enjoy the used and loose feeling that I find mind-boggingly hot.

A related kink that we also sometimes enjoy is my semi-regular use of a male chastity device. When I get home from traveling on Thursday evenings, she frequently (but not always) locks me into a CB-6000S (look it up if you don’t know what it is) and keeps me in it for most or all of the weekend. I pleasure her throughout the weekend while wearing the strap-on harness, but without orgasming myself. By Friday I find myself climbing all over her like a newlywed hubby. I wear (and would personally recommend) the Orion harness, which is made for use by men and accommodates — but doesn’t require — use of a male chastity device.

The chastity thing may not be everyone’s idea of fun, but it works for us. As far as the strap-on harness, it has been indispensable. We LOVE it, and our sex life has improved dramatically. As far as my wife and I are concerned, bigger is (a lot) better.

Bottom line: you have to be a pretty big man to admit that you’re not a big enough man :)

You’re lucky that she has multiple orgasms, my wife will always cum once, and maybe every couple of months might be able to cum a second time. Normally – if we try – she will get close the second time but can’t quite get there. Trying for too long is likely to leave her soar, so we normally leave it at the one orgasm and don’t try for a second.

Recently we went on holiday and for the first time in about 5 years I used my attached penis without using my strapon one first. Obviously I helped her cum first, and so she was very well lubed, but even so the feeling was VERY different. It was somewhat awkward and I really didn’t enjoy it that much and it took ages to cum. We tried it again the next night and again I couldn’t get as deep and it didn’t feel as empowering. I just couldn’t get to the right spots if that makes sense. It just didn’t feel like fucking. So we gave up on penetrative sex until we got home. Next time I think I’ll pack the strapon and stuff the embarrassment at the airport.

Like Phil and his wife, this is an every-time thing, rather than simply an occasional kink. Frankly, I’d never want to go back, nor would my wife. When she tells me that she can’t wait to fuck my brains out, it’s understood that I’ll be wearing the harness. She has crazy-intense multiple orgasms with regularity. After she’s completely spent, I get to finish off inside her. By the time I penetrate her with my own dick, she’s totally fulfilled. At that point, she’s physically and emotionally spent from multiple orgasms. As she’s “coming down” or completely spent from her sexual high, she’s in a bit of cuddle-mode as I grunt in full-on lust. It’s a very, very sexy dynamic. Eye contact makes this dynamic particularly erotic. She’s satiated and watching with idle curiosity as I breathlessly — and ineffectively — thrust. A knowing and understanding smile, even a friendly giggle, usually puts me over the top.