Comments on: Wife Unsure About Sex With Others http://askgarnet.com/2009/11/26/wife-unsure-about-sex-with-others/ Queer sex educator embarking on a new adventure with her wife and two cats. Sat, 04 Feb 2012 17:25:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Phil http://askgarnet.com/2009/11/26/wife-unsure-about-sex-with-others/comment-page-1/#comment-1744 Phil Mon, 31 Oct 2011 15:40:48 +0000 http://askgarnet.com/?p=169#comment-1744 Hi. Checking in again. We got the book but it didn't really offer much to us. It really confirmed a lot of what we already thought. She hasn't met up with anyone yet. Although it is my fantasy I'm not forcing it on her. If it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't. However she's seriously considering it and starting to narrow down what type of guy she would like "if" it happened. She seems far more eager talking about what type of guys she lusts after and what she would do with a guy like that. My guess is that it's only a matter of time. She has to find a guy worthy of being in a relationship with. Hi. Checking in again.

We got the book but it didn’t really offer much to us. It really confirmed a lot of what we already thought.

She hasn’t met up with anyone yet. Although it is my fantasy I’m not forcing it on her. If it happens it happens, if it doesn’t it doesn’t.

However she’s seriously considering it and starting to narrow down what type of guy she would like “if” it happened. She seems far more eager talking about what type of guys she lusts after and what she would do with a guy like that. My guess is that it’s only a matter of time.

She has to find a guy worthy of being in a relationship with.

]]> By: Garnet Joyce http://askgarnet.com/2009/11/26/wife-unsure-about-sex-with-others/comment-page-1/#comment-1684 Garnet Joyce Wed, 15 Dec 2010 17:02:11 +0000 http://askgarnet.com/?p=169#comment-1684 I'm so glad that you've been taking it slowly and that she's coming around. Definitely pick up the book. It's helping my wife and I to discuss opening up our own relationship as well. Good luck! I’m so glad that you’ve been taking it slowly and that she’s coming around. Definitely pick up the book. It’s helping my wife and I to discuss opening up our own relationship as well. Good luck!

]]> By: Phil http://askgarnet.com/2009/11/26/wife-unsure-about-sex-with-others/comment-page-1/#comment-1682 Phil Wed, 15 Dec 2010 14:39:20 +0000 http://askgarnet.com/?p=169#comment-1682 Well, it's now been over a year. During that time we have communicated and discussed it many times. She doesn't question whether I'd be okay with it any more. I think the turning point was when she had lunch with an ex-boyfriend. At the end of their lunch he caught her off guard and kissed her. She said that the kiss lasted a minute or two, and it was only when he broke the kiss that she regained her faculties and left. When she told me all of this she saw that I was happy with no jealousy at all. She now genuinely seems ready to take that next step. Tonight while we went for a walk we were casually discussing whether she should try a lesbian relationship or a hetro one. My preference is hetro, but it is ultimately her choice. Another issue we discussed is whether or not she should choose people she used to date and who have told her on occasion they are still open to casual physical encounters. She is thinking of meeting up with that same ex-boyfriend. They always had amazing sexual chemistry but they parted because they just didn't work as a couple. She said that she's never had that type of chemistry before or after. He's my pick for her, but I'm leaving it up to her. I doubt it will happen any time soon but if it does I'll let you know how it went. I'm also trying to source a copy of that book right now. Well, it’s now been over a year. During that time we have communicated and discussed it many times. She doesn’t question whether I’d be okay with it any more. I think the turning point was when she had lunch with an ex-boyfriend. At the end of their lunch he caught her off guard and kissed her. She said that the kiss lasted a minute or two, and it was only when he broke the kiss that she regained her faculties and left. When she told me all of this she saw that I was happy with no jealousy at all.

She now genuinely seems ready to take that next step.

Tonight while we went for a walk we were casually discussing whether she should try a lesbian relationship or a hetro one. My preference is hetro, but it is ultimately her choice.

Another issue we discussed is whether or not she should choose people she used to date and who have told her on occasion they are still open to casual physical encounters.

She is thinking of meeting up with that same ex-boyfriend. They always had amazing sexual chemistry but they parted because they just didn’t work as a couple. She said that she’s never had that type of chemistry before or after.

He’s my pick for her, but I’m leaving it up to her. I doubt it will happen any time soon but if it does I’ll let you know how it went.

I’m also trying to source a copy of that book right now.

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