Blowjob Tips!

This was recently asked on the message boards of a site I hang out on by a person who is super awesome and near and dear to my heart. I responded there, but I decided I’d post my response here as well since amazingly enough, after 2+ years I don’t have a single post on how to give a blowjob on this blog.

I’m queer, mostly dating genderqueer ‘girls’/bois/trans, etc, but I will date born-men, too. It’s just been less common. Since my last break up I’ve been on a man-bender, but oral sex is kinda personal…I haven’t been with that many dudes and it’s been years since I’ve given a blowjob on anything more than a dildo where it’s the same in many ways, but different.

So tips for giving head! I know you have ‘em. …no teeth is a given, I’m not daft Go!

Enthusiasm is key. You have to actually enjoy doing it and want to do it. That always makes things hotter. Take time to look him in the eye and moan while you’re sucking him off.

Start off a bit slow. Don’t go right into the sucking. Lick and stroke his cock, getting it nice and slippery.

Use both hands and your mouth. Get everything into the action! Stroke his cock with one (lubed or saliva’d) hand like you’re following the stripes on a barber pole, follow that hand with your mouth, and use the other one to play with his balls, perineum, and ass if he’s willing. While you’re doing this pay special attention to his frenulum, which is on the underside of the head of the penis. This is one of the most sensitive areas on most men.

To make it even more fun you can straddle his thigh while he lays on his back so that you can grind your cunt into his leg. Breasts brushing against body parts can also help. Really blow jobs are a whole body activity, but many women are only using their mouths.

Also, don’t worry about slobbering. The more slobber the better. And most men seem to enjoy the slurpy noises that go along with it.

Keep in mind that these instructions are a jumping off point. Ultimately the most important part of pleasing your partner is paying attention. You have to pay attention to the way they react to you and what you’re doing. Ask questions, experiment, and have fun. Everyone is different and that’s what makes sex interesting.

(This question was originally asked by a cis-female, but the answer can be adapted to other genders as well. Rub whatever body parts your partner finds to be sexy on their body. Um … not including your eyes … unless you’re both into that …)