Comments on: The Pain of Losing a Friend http://askgarnet.com/2010/02/18/losingafriend/ Queer sex educator embarking on a new adventure with her wife and two cats. Sat, 04 Feb 2012 17:25:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Killshot http://askgarnet.com/2010/02/18/losingafriend/comment-page-1/#comment-184 Killshot Mon, 22 Feb 2010 07:04:32 +0000 http://askgarnet.com/?p=303#comment-184 I want to message her, but I don't know what to say. I tried to be there for her as best I could when things got crazy, but I feel like maybe I didn't do enough. Maybe I should have offered more, she was right there and maybe I could have done something more earlier on and stopped the series of events that lead to this. But I don't want to message her and just argue, so right now, all I can hope for is that she feels happy, and that somewhere in the future she will find a balance between her new life, her right to it, and the life and rights that any other human should be allowed to live. I want to message her, but I don’t know what to say. I tried to be there for her as best I could when things got crazy, but I feel like maybe I didn’t do enough. Maybe I should have offered more, she was right there and maybe I could have done something more earlier on and stopped the series of events that lead to this.

But I don’t want to message her and just argue, so right now, all I can hope for is that she feels happy, and that somewhere in the future she will find a balance between her new life, her right to it, and the life and rights that any other human should be allowed to live.

]]> By: Britni TheVadgeWig http://askgarnet.com/2010/02/18/losingafriend/comment-page-1/#comment-183 Britni TheVadgeWig Sun, 21 Feb 2010 01:12:58 +0000 http://askgarnet.com/?p=303#comment-183 I understand this fairly well. My best friend is everything that I'm not: conservative, straight, concerned with "right" and "wrong" and public image. She used to be able to respect me for who I was/am, but once she began dating her current boyfriend, she began judging me and became disapproving of almost everything about me. It was so hard and so hurtful to have my best friend seemingly turn on me. And, unfortunately, it will always hurt, and it will always be hard. I'm sorry that you're going through that. I understand this fairly well. My best friend is everything that I’m not: conservative, straight, concerned with “right” and “wrong” and public image. She used to be able to respect me for who I was/am, but once she began dating her current boyfriend, she began judging me and became disapproving of almost everything about me. It was so hard and so hurtful to have my best friend seemingly turn on me.

And, unfortunately, it will always hurt, and it will always be hard. I’m sorry that you’re going through that.

]]> By: Pagan http://askgarnet.com/2010/02/18/losingafriend/comment-page-1/#comment-182 Pagan Fri, 19 Feb 2010 21:17:47 +0000 http://askgarnet.com/?p=303#comment-182 *HUG* well you luckily have a bunch of friends-even if we aren't all close ones-that fully support your marriage and happiness. *HUG* well you luckily have a bunch of friends-even if we aren’t all close ones-that fully support your marriage and happiness.

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