I love seeing how people get to my site. And sometimes they inadvertently find my site by asking a question I never answer here. That makes me sad :( So in the interest of getting people’s questions answered I will respond to questions I see people Googling to get here.
Q: I had sex. Get married?
A: Only if you really want to get married should you get married. Having sex isn’t a good enough reason though. Do you love the person? Do they love you? Do they treat you with respect? Are you compatible? Do you communicate well and on a regular basis? Can you see yourself spending the rest of your life together? Do you enjoy spending your downtime together? How quickly does this person get on your nerves? Do you work well together as a team? Are your emotional and physical needs being met?
These are just a few of the questions you should be asking yourself. But you should keep in mind that a whole hell of a lot of people have premarital sex. I’ve read statistics varying from 90 to 95% of all Americans have premarital sex. I don’t know what the rate is though for who gets married to the person they lose their virginity to. But considering the supposed averages of partners each person has, I’m going to assume that most people don’t marry their high school sweetheart.
A sidenote to the link on average partners: Really ladies? Only 4 men in your lifetime? Either y’all are lying or I’m the biggest slut in the world.
There have been many studies that show when presented with a survey women will usually disclose a lower number of partners and men will usually disclose a higher number of partners.
Few people are willing to be truthful when it comes to the number of people they have been with.