However, if you’re itching for a contest there are a lot of great prizes in these two blogiversary contests:

• Essin’Em celebrates 4 years with 20 companies doing giveaways
• Epiphora celebrates 2 years with 8 of her favorite toys

The kind of cool thing about both is that I feel like I get to be a part of them since I work for MyPleasure and got to help get prizes for both of them. Although, I’ve now realized that my ability to enter contests will become more and more limited.

What is it about this time of year that makes people want to start blogging? Is it the chill in the air?

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I’ll be there so if you see me make sure to say hi!

**UPDATE: Thanks to all who entered. Winners have been notified by email. **

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Here are the details:

When: This Wednesday September 8th 9PM EST/ 6PM PST.

Where: Twitter #pornparty

What: Tight Places: A Drop of Color

Organizers: me of course and @mrsexsmith

Plus, there will be giveaways and promo codes! One $30 Good Vibrations gift card will be given away on Sugarbutch Chronicles (just leave a comment on that post to enter) that day and one will be given away by me during the party. I will update you as more info becomes available.

If you’d like to join us, but you don’t have the movie you can order right now on DVD or get it the night of on VOD. We should have promo codes for a half hour free on VOD the night of.

Are you excited? I am! I’ve heard good things about this flick!

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Also it will buy me some time for my stuff to arrive from Chicago. Although Femenina Deliciosa was nice enough to offer up her place for the porno watching festivities. So even if my stuff doesn’t come yet, we should still be able to do it.

Next month we will be a lot more organized I swear! In fact, I’m planning on doing a giveaway of the movie we decide on so that the winner can watch along with us. It should be fun times.

So what days work best for you? Jiz’s auction is tomorrow. So how about Tuesday the 31st? What time works best for you? I’ll of course have to make sure Femenina’s schedule fits. But for me, I should be available after 6PM PST. Although, if we plan it for a non-Tuesday or Thursday my schedule will be a lot wider open. Whatcha all think?

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So I’m curious, how do you identify? What makes up your sexuality? Do you just choose to use simple words or do you feel that your sexuality is more complex and maybe even fluid? Have you not given it a whole lot of thought? Why not?

Leave me a comment letting me know exactly how you currently identify and maybe even the path in which you’ve traveled to reach your sexual identity. To make the deal a little sweeter I’ll throw in a copy of Fluid: Women Redefining Sexuality. One of you will be chosen at random to win this sexy DVD which I reviewed a couple months ago. The DVD is provided by Good Vibrations, but unfortunately does not have the DVD case, just a paper sleeve. But really, you just want the porn anyway. Who needs a case?

You know what? Lets make this deal even sweeter. The second runner up will receive a free hour of video on demand porn from HotMoviesForHer. Yeah, I just decided that right now. That’s how I roll.

For more ways to enter check out Mistress Kay’s blog. She’s the one who motivated me to throw together this contest anyway. In her contest post she also explores what her sexual identity is and what it means to her. So what are you waiting for? Enter!

Or stick around and read about how I define my sexuality and then enter. Either way.

Like I said earlier, sexuality is complex and mine is no different. In fact my sexuality has often frustrated me. You see I’m more physically attracted to women, but more emotionally attracted to men. This has often made relationships difficult for me since I often fell in love with men, but was more attracted to women. At one point I was completely madly in love with a man but when we’d have sex I’d sometimes lick his perineum like it was  a clit and finger his asshole like it was a vagina. He never seemed to mind, but I don’t think he really knew what was going through my head anyway.

Don’t get me wrong though. I love having sex with both men and women. And in fact, often enjoyed having sex with men more. I blame this on the fact that I just had so many more male partners than female ones. When you have a bigger pot you’re picking from you’ll probably get more fantastic lovers … as well as awful ones.

For a very long time I was only attracted to people with pretty standard gender presentations. I didn’t really understand being attracted to people who defied gender norms until a)I became a gender and women’s studies major and b)I met my wife. Both opened my mind a whole bunch and led me to change my orientation label from bisexual to queer. I love the word queer because it is all encompassing. Now I tend to be attracted to a lot of different gender representations. I even often find that when people play with gender it’s fucking hot. I’m really only not attracted to douchebags and sorority girls. And yes, I actually think of those as gender identities even if they don’t. It makes sense to me.

On the spectrum of monogamy and non-monogamy I’m not really sure where I’m at. I’ve always tended towards monogamy in my serious relationships, but my relationships have often been very short lived. Now I find myself in a marriage with a woman I have been with for almost 4 years. That’s a long time. So we plan to explore. I figure that infidelity ruins a lot of relationships and I don’t want it to ruin mine. It just seems so unlikely to expect someone to be able to remain completely faithful for such a long time. I prefer to avoid that all together by opening things up and creating that trust.

My turn ons are things that I am not supposed to be turned on by. That’s what really gets me going. I like inappropriateness. If I’m supposed to be somewhere else, if I should be doing something else, if the location is all wrong, if it’s really really bad porn, or a stranger I don’t even find attractive whose body is pressed up against mine in a crowded train. All of these things make my genitals tingle probably because I keep yelling at them in my head to stop.

I’m also really turned on by seeing other people turned on. It doesn’t tend to matter who it is. I just love to see the look of ecstasy on people’s faces. Mix this with inappropriateness and we have a whole new game of awful things to be turned on by. You have no idea.

I’m turned on by sex toys, Old Spice deodorant, necking, big round booties, suggestive visuals, laughing, feeling powerful, the way different fabrics feel on my naked body, intelligence, longing, playfulness, flirting with cute strangers, being seduced, dorkyness, trashy boys, and androgyny.

I don’t tend to consider myself to be kinky, but am open to kinkiness in general and have participated in many acts that are far from vanilla. I have no interest in group sex as I prefer to focus my attention on one person at a time.

I have chronic pain that interferes with my sex life a great deal. At the top of that list is having arthritis in my hands and wrists. This can make sex very difficult especially on days with lots of pain. Luckily for me, I have a very understanding partner who doesn’t need a whole lot of warming up and doesn’t mind finishing herself off.

So that’s just the tip of the iceberg with me. How about you? You don’t have to go into the detail that I did if you don’t want to.

Oh and the rules:

• contest ends at 11:59PM CST on 6/6/10
• winners will be picked at random
• leave a comment here telling me how you define your sexuality
• leave a comment on Mistress Kay’s blog telling her why you want the DVD
• Tweet up to twice per week (on different days) mentioning the contest with a link to either mine or Mistress Kay’s blog as well as an @ on one of us (I’m GarnetJoyce and she’s mistress_kay). If you tweet more than this you will have points deducted for being annoying.

Get crackin!

EDIT: Apparently comments have been getting caught by my spam filter. If this happens, just send me an email with your comment and I’ll post it myself. I will look into fixing this, but it may be difficult since I get a TON of spam and I don’t want to turn anything off.

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Oh how things have changed! Tristan Taormino is on the scene and she gives super helpful advice in a totally hot format. Her Expert Guide to Advanced Fellatio is everything that that old tape was not. If only my 18 year old self had had access to her instructional style I would have been much less shy about giving blowjobs. Granted I probably would have started with the regular fellatio DVD, not the advanced one. And I highly suggest you start with that one if you haven’t developed your blowjob style. Luckily, I figured out how to give blowjobs despite that awful tape and was very ready for the advanced version.

The DVD starts with the workshop portion which lasts about 53 minutes. This is where Tristan Taormino goes over the male anatomy; talks about what makes a great blowjob; goes over the different advanced positions – sword swallower, standing 69,and  reverse 69 – which are mostly for the athletic flexible types; how to successfully deep throat;  gagging and face fucking; playing with his balls, perineum, and ass; and different blowjob styles -sensual, sloppy, submissive, and aggressive . In between gems of knowledge, porn stars also talk about what they love about giving or receiving blowjobs which helps add to the discussion. But all that would be horribly boring if we didn’t also have blowjob demos going on with the explanations. For everything that Tristan talks about, there is a corresponding scene to show us how to do it.

Whether it’s Standing 69:

or reverse 69:

And even better, there are cameras in the hands of both the behind the set people AND the male porn stars. You get point of view blowjobs and views from a bit more of a distance so you can see all the angles.

After the workshop portion we see all 3 scenes in their entirety. And the truth of the matter is that after 53 minutes of blowjobs I couldn’t handle anymore. That’s seriously a lot of blowjobs. But that is the point of this DVD so I hardly fault anyone for it. By the end of it you will definitely have more of an idea about how to spice up your blowjobs even if you can’t bend over backwards.

A few days later after I could handle blowjobs I came back to the DVD. The first scene is between Christian and Charley Chase. This is the sloppiest wettest blowjob I’ve ever seen. Saliva, you see, is a great thing to have during a blowjob. That being said, the workshop portion gave me my fill of this bj and I had to fastforward through the full scene. All that slobber and sucky smacky gaggy noises were starting to make me feel sick. It’s just not my cup of tea. I like a good slobbery bj just as much as the next cock lover, but this kinda grossed me out. There were giant spit bubbles and wads of spit on tits, faces, thighs, and dripping onto the floor. This is just a personal preference and you should not let it keep you from giving or getting the sloppiest bj imaginable.

The second scene features Adrianna Nicole and Evan Stone. This has been the least noticeable role for Evan Stone in the history of his entire career. He could be anyone! In fact, for parts of it he was just a disembodied cock that Adrianna was sucking on. And let me tell ya, Adrianna sucks cock like a champ. I think the woman has no gag reflex left. Thankfully she also uses a bit less saliva. No, the only things that were distracting to this hot blowjob were Evan’s dirty feet, the music that just didn’t seem to fit, and the extreme closeups that plague this DVD (I mean really if I can’t actually tell what is going on you’re too damn close!).

The scene doesn’t just contain a bj either! Yay! There’s also some pleasure for Adrianna’s genitals as well. She gets fingered, there’s the reverse 69, and there’s some fucking at the end.

And as usual, Tristan saves the best scene for last: Satine Phoenix sucking and deep throating Danny Wylde’s uncircumcised cock. It is no secret that I adore Satine Phoenix. I think she is one of the most sensual porn stars around. It doesn’t hurt that she’s also a curvy latina with big lips and eyes. After I watched this DVD I have to say that the saddest thing about her quitting porn is that this is the only time her and Danny Wylde work together. Because seriously, this is one of the hottest scenes I’ve ever seen. Ever.

So what makes this scene so extremely hot? Well, besides Satine’s amazing hotness that is? First of all, Danny actually shows his enjoyment. While a lot of male porn stars, and men in general, are all stoic and quiet in their lovemaking, Danny lets it all out. He shows you he is enjoying it. Let this be a lesson to you dudes: making noise and admitting that you’re having fun when you’re having sex is sexy. I once dated a guy who wouldn’t make any noise or even breathe when he was cumming. His face would turn purple and his veins popped out. I was afraid his head was going to explode. I had to teach him to let it out.

Second, both Satine and Danny are really into fucking each other. There is unmistakable chemistry here. The eye contact is intense and you can feel the energy between them.

But mostly, I could easily put myself in the place of Satine. I’ve been there before! The kind of intense fucking where you feel like you couldn’t live without his cock inside of you a second more. Every time Danny’s dick slips out of Satine she whimpers at the loss. And yet when he is fucking her it is almost so intense that she can’t handle it. This scene is going to be in my permanent wank rotation. If you don’t watch anything else in this movie, please watch this scene. That’s why they have VOD so you can watch just one scene easily and don’t have to pay for the whole thing.

Overall: This DVD is fantastic for learning advanced blowjob techniques. This is definitely not for those who have not mastered the basic blowjob though. If you’re feeling confident with your skills, but want to know how to step it up a notch this is definitely the movie for you. If you want to just watch porn and you love watching blowjobs you will think this is the best porno ever. If you just want to watch porn, but want something besides blowjobs you should probably skip this flick except for checking out the last scene with Danny and Satine.

Technical Stuff: Shot in Hi-Def. The music does not match the sex and is a little distracting and sometimes the camera gets a little to up in the action to the point where you can’t really tell what is going on. But overall, the technical stuff is all pretty good. Lighting is well done and sound is fantastic. You can hear what everyone says and the screams are not deafening.

Contest: If you’d like to own a copy of this DVD, but don’t want to buy it I have great news for you! I have an extra copy that I want to give you. There are two ways to enter. You can leave a comment on this post and/or you can tweet about it once per day. Make sure that your profile is public and that you put @garnetjoyce and a link to the contest in the tweet otherwise it won’t count. Example: Win an advanced BJ DVD from @garnetjoyce! Rules: http://vb.ly/266o. Contest ends at midnight CST on April 15th.

Otherwise you can order the DVD straight from Tristan here or watch it instantly on HotMoviesForHer.com.

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• My list I also added a wishlist to JT’s Stockroom in my sidebar.
• Epiphora
• Ashley
• Beautiful Dreamer
• Toygirl
• Essin’ Em
• Sara
• Cleofaye
• Saraid
• Dangerous Lilly
• Wilhelmina
• Scarlet Lotus
• Domina Doll
• Alley
• Sarahbear
• Juliettia
• Rose 

Then once you’ve gotten something for them, try to win something for yourself by entering the awesome FetLife contest where they have 217 prizes totaling close to $25,000. WANT!!

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Details about entering via Twitter
Details about entering via Facebook

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Have you heard of the sexy, smart, kinky Essin’ Em? If you don’t know who she is you really really should. Seriously. She’s pretty rad. For her blogiversary (damn 3 years!) she’s got an epic contest going on and the prizes are so fantastic that I had to make time in my very busy schedule to search out the answers to all her questions. I should be in bed right now. Sooooo exhausted! Anyhoo the following are the answers to her scavenger hunt. And don’t forget you can still enter my free porn contest which is wicked way easier, but admittedly not as cool. Details: here and here.

How old I am: 23

My real name: Shanna Katz

The names of my cats: Kinsey, Kali and Jasper

The number of lettered partners (ex: Q) I have had on my blog, and list them: 8: J, Q, K, F, S, L, M, C

Five of the companies I do review for (or have in the past): Liberator, SexToy.com, Babeland, Vibe Review, Good Vibrations

Where my first job was in the “adult industry”: HotMoviesForHer.com

My number one porn star crush: Jiz Lee

What happens everytime I get another 100 followers on Twitter: Tweet a nekkid pic

Who created my Facebook Fan Page: The Kinky Librarian

One blogger who helped me to find/understand my Femme identity: Sinclair Sexsmith

How many tattoos I have, and what they are (bonus if you know their meanings): 5 tattoos
1: Crescent moon with 4 stars and a tear drop. The tear drop is for sadness. Moon is the present and the stars are your future.
2.: Flying Pig with a banner below it that reads “Aba” which is Hebrew for father. Pigs were your dad’s fave animal.
3. “Not all those who wander are lost.” A quote from LoTR
4: Two people embracing. One is more femme and that one is you and the other you can’t tell. Its to show your love of sexuality
5. Femme spiral to show physical proof of belonging to such a strong and powerful group of women, queers, dykes, and more. 

The other country have I lived in: Germany

Number of states I’ve presented/taught in (bonus for which ones): 6: New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, Colorado, California, and Washington. She’s also taught in the District of Columbia, which isn’t technically a state.

My absolute favorite toy ever is: Hitachi Magic Wand (and really, isn’t it everyone’s? It should be!)

Two of my favorite kinky activities: fire play and electricity play

Eight sex/uality bloggers I have met in person: Audacia Ray, Jamye Waxman, Sinclair Sexsmith, Jiz Lee, Domina Doll, Furry Girl, and Bella Vendetta

Three issues I feel VERY strongly on: Queers, Trannies, and Fatties

Five of my top ten toys/lube/etc: Smart Balls, Lelo Gigi, Pjur Eros, Thigh harness, vampire gloves

Three of the four porn companies I’ve shot for: CrashpadSeries, GoodDykePorn, NoFauxxx

The color I am allergic to: Pink

Two of my favorite colors (bonus for all three): red, black, and white

My degrees are in: BA in Sociology and German and an M.Ed in Human Sexuality

One of my favorite body parts: Legs

What is special about my tongue: its geographic

Site my advice panel is on: The Lesbian Lifestyle

Site my column is on: Out Front Colorado

BONUS QUESTIONS:

The number of comments on this blog: as of 10:45 PM CST 11/17/09 there are 4,823 comments … omg I should get something for counting all those!

The number of posts on this blog: My count was 1091 as of 11/17/09

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