You should subscribe to the RSS feed. Have a question? Ask me anything.Thanks for visiting! Sometimes you need to try a new tactic and that’s what I did for days 6 through 10 of the 31 Day No Hitachi Challenge. I slacked for 2 out of the 5 days of this challenge because sometimes there are just other things in life that need your attention. And sometimes you just need to friggin sleep. But I still consider this quite the success.
The Toy
Out of all of the toys I’ve tried that had not yet given me an orgasm I felt like the Eroscillator was coming the closest. So I decided to focus specifically on it for a few days and kept it plugged in next to my bed. One of the things I really like about this toy, and what makes it a bit more discreet, is that you can remove the attachment and just clean that. No hauling giant vibrators to the bathroom, just a small attachment that can easily fit in a pocket or sleeve. Plus, cleaning a small attachment is SO easy! Those of you who take a toothbrush to your Hitachi know what I’m talking about!
The Fodder
I’ve had a lot of non-success coming up with sexy things to think about. I’ve been distracted with my sore, achey body. But I will try to redouble my efforts here. Part of the problem is waiting too long to masturbate and not getting to it until the end of the day.
Thoughts
I had an orgasm with the Eroscillator! Granted that was with the help of my wife, but that was not something that could be achieved before with the Wahl. But this is a double success because we’ve had sex more often than usual. Masturbating at bedtime is tricky because it’s harder to focus, but it also means we’re more likely to have sex. So I must admit I’m torn.
Or actually maybe a lot of help. Yesterday was Day 5 of my 31 Day No Hitachi Challenge.
The Toy
It was time to try the Wahl again. Unfortunately I was unable to find an opened Wahl at work last week and after last night’s use I think I am going to have to actually go into the warehouse to pull out a new one. Because there MUST be something wrong with mine. That seems to be the only conclusion I can draw because I find the Wahl to be the opposite of a satisfying experience. In fact at some points last night it was actually painful, but I’ll get to that later. In the middle I decided to switch toys and I’m glad I did.
The Fodder
My wife. I guess it’s not really fodder, since we actually made with the sexins. I can definitely report that masturbating every day has risen the libido. I’m forced to think about sex, which is good since I seem to have stopped thinking of it on my own. I know that sounds so weird considering that I work for a sex toy company, but I don’t think about my own sex life. I think about other people’s sex lives and that doesn’t translate. I think about sex toys and their functions which is actually not a sexy thing at all for me. One of the things that makes me good at my job is the fact that I can totally separate myself from other people’s experiences. If I wasn’t able to do this we’d sell a much more limited quantity of sex toys. In fact we’d only sell like 5 vibrators tops … and no rabbits which are top sellers.
Thoughts
Yay sex!
I must say I do not like the Wahl. I feel like I’m committing heresy here. I started with the spot attachment which looks like a nubbin with a ring around it and I just couldn’t feel it. My clit was registering like no sensations whatsoever. So I switched to the knuckle joint attachment which looks like a corner – like a rounded edge of something. I definitely felt a lot more with that, but both good and bad. My clit registered the vibration and was enjoying it, but the edges of the attachment were a little on the sharp side and in order to receive the sensation I wanted from the toy I also was being subjected to these sharp edges on my outer labia. This was frustrating, uncomfortable, and very distracting from the sex.
We couldn’t have that so I traded up for the Inspire and had lots of happy wonderful orgasms. In the future I will probably try to incorporate the Eroscillator or the Siri or something else, but after the frustration from the Wahl I deserved the Inspire. Especially since I knew the wife would be breaking out her Hitachi for herself. Yes, we own two of them.
At this point I think the Wahl may only have one trial left, if that.
When did masturbation become a chore? When I was 9 I could spend entire days masturbating. It was pretty much my favorite thing to do ever. And here we are at day four of the 31 Day No Hitachi Challenge and it already feels like a chore.
For day four I left it too late again. Not because I didn’t have the time, but because I was procrastinating. As if it was a test I needed to study for or something else not enjoyable.
The Toy
I only had one option left in my arsenal (this will change soon), the Eroscillator. This was another toy that when I acquired it I felt like the Hitachi was spoiling me for all other toys. This one, even in the midst of Hitachi abundance, could get me so close to orgasm, but could never quite push me over the edge. It has a different feeling than most other vibrators because it oscillates instead of vibrates and it’s also pretty much the ugliest vibrator ever made. I’m really not sure why they couldn’t have made it look much nicer.
Thoughts
By the time I used it last night I just didn’t have much hope of getting off, nor was I even able to come up with any sort of fantasy. I tried a few, but I just didn’t have it in me. So in other words, last night I masturbated because I HAD to. That’s a sad statement.
But it did not have a sad effect, in fact it was quite the opposite. I used the Eroscillator for 8 minutes and then gave up. However, I noticed a marked increase in my libido afterwards. Had I had any energy I would’ve wanted to start again. Had my wife and I both had the energy I definitely would’ve wanted to have sex. I had that tingling feeling in my genitals that so rarely happens any more and is just one of the many symptoms to my loss of libido. The Eroscillator seems to be a great kick starter. Also, it just feels really good in general so I will definitely continue to use it throughout this 31 day challenge.
Yesterday was Day 3 of the 31 Day No Hitachi Challenge and the most successful day yet. I try to masturbate before the wife gets home from work because sometimes it’s easier to lose myself in the moment without another person around. But yesterday I was so tired when I got home from work (3 hours of commuting will do that to you) I just didn’t have the energy right when I got home, which is the only time I had. So I waited until bedtime, but that meant I’d have to pull out the big guns.
The Toy
I had been considering doing this challenge for a year at least, but didn’t have the guts until I tried the Pink Inspire. The orgasms were weaker than with the Hitachi, but they were possible. I needed a safety net. I mean did you really think I was willing to masturbate for 31 days straight with no promise of orgasm? That just sounds like a killing spree waiting to happen.
I had planned on using this toy later but, this seemed like the necessary time to break out the Inspire.
The Fodder
With my wife laying next to me in bed this was trickier than usual. If I fantasize about her then it gets frustrating because SHE’S RIGHT THERE and WHY CAN’T SHE BE TOUCHING ME NOW!?!? Well, because she was tired and her back hurt. So I tried to imagine other fantasies involving me and someone else (real, imagined, or faceless). This did not work because I still felt like if I was involved in the fantasy it would be so much better if I was actually doing it. Masturbating next to someone who is not paying much attention has always left me feeling frustrated which is one of the reasons I like the Hitachi – I don’t have to fantasize; it just gets the job done.
So I let my mind wander, trying to pick out other things that turn me on. And then there it was. I can’t believe I’d never spent any real time here before, but it was glorious. Captain Jack Harkness and Spike. Not older James Marsters (Captain John) who actually does makeout with Captain Jack (which is hot too), but actual William the Bloody. Captain Jack and Spike kissing passionately, rubbing their bodies against each other, sucking each other’s cock. Oh god it was amazing and just what I needed. Is there fanfic of this somewhere? There really should be.
Thoughts
All in all it took me about 10 minutes and I had 3 orgasms. They were much stronger than I remembered having with the Inspire previously. I’m sure that 2 days of masturbating with no result made that possible. I wanted to keep going. I usually prefer to have around 5 orgasms, but the Inspire started to get really hot and it was too cold in the bedroom to remove the blankets.
What I really like about the Inspire is the power, of course, but also the two pronged attachment. It delivers vibrations in a way that I’ve never experienced with the giant head on the Hitachi. Of course now all I can think though is that I need a similar attachment for my Hitachi. I need to break the addiction!
It’s Day 2 of the 31 Day No Hitachi Challenge. I worked from home today which meant I had a little more time to spend and a little less on my mind. Does that equal success?
The Toy
Today’s choice was the Siri, Lelo’s most powerful vibrator to date. I bought this vibe a couple years ago because I didn’t own any Lelo vibes and it felt like a right of passage I was missing out on. I owned the Ella dildo and loved it, but Lelo is best known for their luxury vibrators. I had to see what I was missing out on. In that time I used it once and decided that it wasn’t powerful enough. I had eyed my Hitachi with disdain for making it impossible to enjoy this toy so it seemed like a natural pick for the challenge.
The Fodder
The original plan for today was to watch My Own Master which, while I haven’t seen ALL of it, I had declared to be THE BEST PORNO EVER MADE. Because if there’s one thing in this world that could get me aroused enough it would definitely be the first scene in this flick. This is where I experienced deep horrible painful disappointment. The disc was nowhere to be found and I concluded that I must’ve left it in my old desktop which I gave to Best Buy for recycling. I don’t know if I will ever recover from this pain.
So I went searching through my other porn and found one I hadn’t watched yet, but promised great things: Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Female Orgasms. I trust Tristan to provide me with hot sex and she did deliver. I watched the scene with Dylan Ryan and Mr. Marcus. Now I must admit that since I’ve moved to California and met many of my favorite porn stars it’s gotten a little weird to watch them fuck. I’m not friends with Dylan, but I have partied with her and spent some time chatting with her. And for how amazing she is in porn, she’s like a goddess in real life. I don’t know that I’ve ever met a fiercer femme. So it’s a little weird, but I worked past that for the sake of science*.
Dylan’s pleasure and orgasms were intense thanks to Mr. Marcus, a bit of lube, an njoy Eleven, and a Hitachi Magic Wand. The latter of which you can imagine put a bit of a damper on my experience. Jealous!
Thoughts
I spent about 50 minutes masturbating today, starting slow and working my way up. I did not cum, but I did come close. There is a very intense few minutes between Dylan and Mr. Marcus that facilitated getting me very close. I identified with Dylan so hard: her moaning, her movements, it felt like that could be me. However, to get that close I did have to use a dildo. The Siri just did not provide me with the kind of power that I’m used to. And actually, if we’re being honest here, my clit never felt all that close to orgasm. My g-spot was ready to pull it out, but needed a little extra oomph in the clit department to push me over the edge. It never happened. And by the end I felt a little sick, but I didn’t have the hard clit spasming like I had yesterday which was a relief.
I do feel like my libido is pickup up a bit overall so that’s good news. I’m not frustrated yet, but there’s always tomorrow.
*Yeah, yeah, not really science. I feel like I have to make that disclaimer since I’m married to a scientist.
Happy Masturbation Month! In honor of this fabulous month I’ll be taking a no Hitachi challenge. Today is the first day and I knew it wasn’t going to be easy. It wouldn’t be a challenge if it was easy. When I got home from work today I unplugged my Hitachi and put it in the closet to remain for the rest of May.
The Toy
For Day One I decided to use the Wahl. It seemed appropriate since this style of vibe was my very first and when I was younger always worked reliably. The Wahl is a blogger favorite. It’s a cheap, powerful, quiet, well-made vibe. But while I was using it I found myself wondering if mine just isn’t as powerful as it should be. I remember there being a lot more power in my first vibe, but memories are tricky things. I will have to check the power of another Wahl when I am in the office on Thursday. After all, mine has been sitting around unused for a few years.
The Fodder
Normally when I use a Hitachi I can just let my mind wander. I rarely think about sexy things. I just let my body go through the stages of orgasm with little to no effort on my part. This is probably not going to work with other toys, at least not at first. I tried thinking sexy thoughts, but I went to the office today which means my mind is filled with work as well as the Occupy protests going on in Oakland. My walk home from the BART included 2 boarded up banks, spray painted anarchy symbols, and the sound of helicopters overhead. So my mind was not supplying the sexy times even though I had a pretty sexy dream last night.
I turned to my phone for stimulation. The first thing that came to mind to search for was Spike/Buffy (Spuffy) fanfic. I’ve never really read fanfic before, but oh how the sex scenes in BtVS turn me on. Mmmm Spike. Even looking for the fic sparked my libido up a bit. I began to read and get into the story, but then I got a text from my wife that had to be answered right away. Phones aren’t the best tools for masturbation when you could get interrupted at any moment.
Thoughts
I spent 28 minutes with a vibrator between my legs and I didn’t even get close to orgasm. It felt good, but I didn’t even feel much of a rise at all. Most rise was from thoughts of Spuffy. Because there wasn’t much rise there also wasn’t much frustration. If I’m close to the edge, but I just can’t seem to get over it that’s when I expect it will get really frustrating. What I did notice was after I took the vibe away my clit was spasming HARD. Every few seconds I’d feel a jolt. It was not pleasant and slightly painful. This sometimes happens after sex although not usually this hard. It took about 5 minutes to stop. Besides this bit of annoyance day one hasn’t been so bad. Only 30 left to go.
I think tomorrow will be easier. I will be working from home so I’ll have a bit more time to get in the mood instead of rushing in the door to masturbate before I cook dinner.
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