Ask Garnet » meme http://askgarnet.com Queer sex educator embarking on a new adventure with her wife and two cats. Fri, 15 Jul 2011 00:44:20 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Day in Pictures http://askgarnet.com/2011/01/27/day-in-pictures/ http://askgarnet.com/2011/01/27/day-in-pictures/#comments Fri, 28 Jan 2011 06:09:57 +0000 Garnet Joyce http://askgarnet.com/?p=1325 Ok this is totally lame, but I had fun doing it. On one of the websites I hang out on someone started a day in pictures thread and I decided to contribute my day.

Here’s a typical Thursday for me.

I had breakfast – an egg and hashbrowns

Then took the bus to work

I work across the street from [...]]]> Ok this is totally lame, but I had fun doing it. On one of the websites I hang out on someone started a day in pictures thread and I decided to contribute my day.

Here’s a typical Thursday for me.

I had breakfast – an egg and hashbrowns

Then took the bus to work

I work across the street from a veteran cemetery. Look at the gorgeous California weather.

This is where I work.

This is my desk with all kinds of goodies on it.

I tested out some new massage oils and lube. The bottles are pretty, but some improvements are needed. I made my suggestions for the manufacturers.

Then I tested out some new restraints. I’m undecided on whether or not we should pick them up. Maybe I’ll take them into a real world test environment.

Then I looked at a sex toy catalogue.

Wow my desk gets messy during the day!

I actually did a lot more than that during work, but it’s hard to take pics of everything. I think my favorite part was posting the $1,000 shopping spree contest. I love it when people get excited.

Then I left for the day. Here’s me waiting for the bus.

I stopped at Trader Joe’s on my way home. It’s really close so I go there almost every day to pick up a few things. Which of course also means that every time I go I forget something. This time I forgot to pick up lettuce.

Yay home!

Cooking dinner

Dinner ready to be consumed.

There will also be TV watching, hanging out with my wife, and snuggling at bedtime. But I didn’t really want to take pics of that stuff.

What did your day look like?

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The problem is that I get really shy and have a difficult time forming thoughts and words. As my wife pointed out, I can talk to a room full of strangers about giving blowjobs, but I become a blushing mess when confronted with porn stars that most people don’t even know.

I’m currently feeling ridiculously anxious. I’m feeling about as nervous as I did in high school when I looked up to and so desperately wanted to be friends with this beautiful group of girls (and a couple guys) who were ravers, punks, and general outcasts. I’ve grown up now and San Francisco has become my high school and the cool outcast girls have turned into the sex educators and sex workers that I so admire.

I chat with them little bits at a time and hope that they remember my face, my name, my website, something. But I have to wonder if they draw any connections between the times that they interact with me. Is that time we chatted on twitter connected to the time you featured me in a post or the time I interviewed you or the time you thanked me for something I said or did? Or am I just another one of the thousands of people who fawn over you all the time? Am I noticed?

A sex educator friend of mine recently assured me that I am; that I even have somewhat of a reputation. And I should listen to that especially when people I meet connect the dots and realize that I’m *that* Garnet Joyce – are there others?
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Step One
- Make a post (public, friendslocked, filtered…whatever you’re comfortable with) to your LJ or Myspace or Blog. The important thing is to make sure these wishes are things you really, truly want.
- If you wish for real possible things, make sure you include some sort of contact info in your post, whether it’s your address or just an email address at which you can be contacted by potential wish-grantors, real or imaginary.
- Also, make sure you post some version of these guidelines in your post, so that the holiday joy will spread.
Step Two
- Surf around your friends list/blogroll/RSS feeds (or friendsfriends, or just random journals) to see who has posted their list.
- If you see a wish you can grant, and it’s in your heart to do so, make someone’s wish come true. Sometimes someone’s trash is another’s treasure, and if you have a leather jacket you don’t want or a gift certificate you won’t use–or even know where you could get someone’s dream purebred Basset Hound for free–do it.
You needn’t spend money on these wishes unless you want to. The point isn’t to put people out, it’s to provide everyone a chance to spread the joy. Gifts can be made anonymously or not–it’s your call.
There are no rules with this project, no guarantees, and no strings attached. Just…wish, and it might come true. Give, and you might receive. And you’ll have the joy of knowing you made someone’s holiday special.
So here’s what I wish for:
1. An e-stim starter kit. Midori suggested we give electricity play a try since it will cause pain without hurting my arthritic hands the way beating my wife does.
2. A second hitachi because my wife apparently needs one on her side of the bed too so she doesn’t scare the crap out of me when she wakes me up in the middle of the night looming over me trying to get the cord over my head without waking me.
3. Free advertising/marketing advice for my blog. I just don’t have the time, energy, or know-it-all for this stuff and I could really use some help. I’d love to get my blog out more so I can gain a larger audience.
4. I’d love a copy of Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink by Midori.
5. Book covers in different size so people can’t see what I’m reading on my lunch break or my commutes to and from work.
6. A variety of flavored hot chocolates (bonus for white hot chocolate!) Noms!
7. Acupuncture: I’ve been meaning to try this for my arthritis, but haven’t gotten around to it. Also, it can be pretty pricey. I know of a couple places that do it on a sliding scale though.
8. A recumbent stationary bike. Once again trying another way that I can exercise without hurting my arthritis. So many ways have failed me.
9. Awesome friends in the Bay Area that are in the sex ed/porn biz that can help me get started and who are just cool to hang out with.
10. A trip to Stockholm/London/Paris/Rome/Berlin etc. because I’ve never been out of the country and would really really like to travel Europe. I’d even be willing to start with Canada ;)
11. Women’s black trouser socks. I swear no matter how many pairs I buy they all disappear soon after!
12. Giftcards to Target/Torrid/Amazon/Peapod/JT’s Stockroom
13. A spreader bar … If you know what that is I think its pretty self-explanatory.
14. A Lelo Gigi because she’s so sexy and I really want to take her for a spin.
15. A pedicure at Nails.com. No, its not a website, but a nail salon in the Lakeview neighborhood of Chicago. They are the best though with their massage chairs!
16. A copy of a book that you think I’d really like.
17. A USB drive.
18. Penny Flame’s Expert Guide to Rough Sex
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