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Day Two: Siri & Dylan

It’s Day 2 of the 31 Day No Hitachi Challenge. I worked from home today which meant I had a little more time to spend and a little less on my mind. Does that equal success?

The Toy

Today’s choice was the Siri, Lelo’s most powerful vibrator to date. I bought this vibe a couple years ago because I didn’t own any Lelo vibes and it felt like a right of passage I was missing out on. I owned the Ella dildo and loved it, but Lelo is best known for their luxury vibrators. I had to see what I was missing out on. In that time I used it once and decided that it wasn’t powerful enough. I had eyed my Hitachi with disdain for making it impossible to enjoy this toy so it seemed like a natural pick for the challenge.

The Fodder

The original plan for today was to watch My Own Master which, while I haven’t seen ALL of it, I had declared to be THE BEST PORNO EVER MADE. Because if there’s one thing in this world that could get me aroused enough it would definitely be the first scene in this flick. This is where I experienced deep horrible painful disappointment. The disc was nowhere to be found and I concluded that I must’ve left it in my old desktop which I gave to Best Buy for recycling. I don’t know if I will ever recover from this pain.

So I went searching through my other porn and found one I hadn’t watched yet, but promised great things: Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Female Orgasms. I trust Tristan to provide me with hot sex and she did deliver. I watched the scene with Dylan Ryan and Mr. Marcus. Now I must admit that since I’ve moved to California and met many of my favorite porn stars it’s gotten a little weird to watch them fuck. I’m not friends with Dylan, but I have partied with her and spent some time chatting with her. And for how amazing she is in porn, she’s like a goddess in real life. I don’t know that I’ve ever met a fiercer femme. So it’s a little weird, but I worked past that for the sake of science*.

Dylan’s pleasure and orgasms were intense thanks to Mr. Marcus, a bit of lube, an njoy Eleven, and a Hitachi Magic Wand. The latter of which you can imagine put a bit of a damper on my experience. Jealous!

Thoughts

I spent about 50 minutes masturbating today, starting slow and working my way up. I did not cum, but I did come close. There is a very intense few minutes between Dylan and Mr. Marcus that facilitated getting me very close. I identified with Dylan so hard: her moaning, her movements, it felt like that could be me. However, to get that close I did have to use a dildo. The Siri just did not provide me with the kind of power that I’m used to. And actually, if we’re being honest here, my clit never felt all that close to orgasm. My g-spot was ready to pull it out, but needed a little extra oomph in the clit department to push me over the edge. It never happened. And by the end I felt a little sick, but I didn’t have the hard clit spasming like I had yesterday which was a relief.

I do feel like my libido is pickup up a bit overall so that’s good news. I’m not frustrated yet, but there’s always tomorrow.

*Yeah, yeah, not really science. I feel like I have to make that disclaimer since I’m married to a scientist.

Porn Party & New Ethical Porn VOD

Sinclair Sexsmith and I will be hosting another porn party on twitter. This time we’ll be watching 4 scenes from the new site QueerPorn.TV. Join in on the fun at 6 PM PST/ 9 PM EST on Wednesday January 19th by following along with the #pornparty hashtag on twitter. We’ll all be hitting play at about the same time and tweeting our commentary. We’ve done this a few times before and it’s always a blast.

Make sure you’ve got your membership before the party starts. VIP membership is $29.99 per month for downloaded and streaming movies, cancel any time. Or you can buy or rent movies individually starting at $12. But for how much we’ll be watching I recommend getting the VIP membership.

Don’t have that kind of scratch? I’m giving away 1 one month membership to the site. All you have to do is comment here and promise to show up for the party. Contest will end on the 17th at 11:59 PM PST, winner announced the following day.

For a list of the videos we’ll be watching checkout Sinclair’s post.

In other news, I often have people asking me for recommendations for ethical porn so I decided to add my own video on demand (VOD) service to the site. You can click the above menu tab that says “Porn” or click on “Garnet Approved VOD” under Porn I Love in my right sidebar. It can also be reached by simply typing in vod.askgarnet.com. The service is hosted by HotMoviesForHer and it allows me to filter by studio. Through vod.askgarnet.com you can only view studios that I feel are ethical which leaves about 650 movies which is still a giant chunk. I then whittled it down to 70+ featured films which are easy to find on the front page. These are my absolute favorite studios. And then to highlight my absolute favorite movies I created a top 10 under Editor’s Picks. I tried to include a variety of films in this section, but I will point out that I’m missing gay male porn. I really am unfamiliar with it unfortunately. However, if you know a gay porn studio that you think is ethical please tell me about it and include how they are different and I’ll consider adding them.

Every time you watch a movie through my VOD service I will get a percentage. Think of it as a way to support me, this blog, and ethical pornography.

Porny Mood

I’m in a porny mood. I’m not sure exactly what that means, but I do feel the urge to share. I get porn in my inbox pretty often and I rarely have time to look at it, but today I have decided to scour through it to see what is good to share. Enjoy!

Scar 13 in the desert with nothing but a parasol and rope. God I love a round booty!

April Flores sticking candy canes where they really shouldn’t go.

Bunny rings in the New Year.

Billy Castro and Arabelle Raphael don’t let their language barrier get in the way of one helluva hot sex session! These are pics from an episode we watched in our last porno party on twitter.

Speaking of Billy Castro, here he is on Heavenly Spire.

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A bit of roleplay between these two ladies leads to some tying up. What can I say? I love a woman in a pinstripe suit.

Lizzy Kaelar is one of those gorgeous curvy librarian types. Rawr!

But back to that pinstripe suit thing, Michelle Aston and Aiden Starr put on a super hot show in this photoset.

Maxine Holloway and Greta are two very beautiful femmes who have some hot strap-on sex.

Two of my favorite performers, Madison Young and Danny Wylde, get a bit rough when they get it on.

More hot femmes with a strap-on.

My current favorite porn performer, Tina Horn, straps on just to drink wine.

I hope you enjoyed these as much as I did!

Ethical Gay Male Bondage Porn

Q: I hate the idea of supporting unethical porn. Do you know of any ethical porn sites that are not too expensive or that charge by the day? I usually only watch porn once a month, so I do not want to pay too much. I especially like gay (male) bondage porn. Any recommendations would be great!

A: I love that you’re on board with supporting ethical porn. It’s so nice to see people who are really interested in making a difference using their dollars to vote for what they want and don’t want in the world.

There aren’t a whole lot of porn sites that are really inexpensive or only charge by the day. However, what you may be interested in doing is either joining up for a month and taking a day or two to just go through all of their content and copy to your computer what you think you’ll need for the next several months. Obviously you should do this in an ethical way so don’t use special software to grab content and don’t share the content you grab with other people. It should be for your own personal use. Another option is to do video on demand (VOD) so that you only pay for what you watch.

I’m not too familiar with gay male bondage porn so I asked around for some advice from sex workers and companies I trust. First I asked VOD site HotMoviesForHer because they’re just awesome and they suggested Muscle Bound Productions. I can’t speak to the ethical nature of Muscle Bound Productions, but Hot Movies is pretty awesome. New users get 10 free minutes and then you just pay for what you watch when you want to watch. There’s no signup fees or anything.

Jiz Lee suggested Titan Men which has a few different options for signing up including VOD. Then there’s also Kink.com which houses more porn than anyone could ever possibly watch. Check out their Kink Men Gay Shoots on VOD. But like I said, they have a ton of porn so just look around at their different websites to see what appeals to you.

Also, check out Heavenly Spire which is one of Shine Louise Houston’s creations. She’s awesome and was the subject of one of my recent Ethical Pornographer interviews.

Ethical Pornographer Interview with Shine Louise Houston

I just posted my most recent Ethical Pornographer interview. This time the interviewee was Shine Louise Houston.

Go check it out … and be nice because it’s my first attempt at making a video.

Crashpad Porn Party!

It’s that time again. @MrSexsmith and I are hosting another porn party on twitter. This time we’ll be watching 4 episodes on CrashpadSeries.com on Wednesday December 1st at 9PM EST/ 6PM PST. If you want to play along follow #pornparty on twitter, watch the episodes chosen, and tweet about it using #pornparty.

For those of you not in the know (have you been living under a rock?), CrashPadSeries.com is one of the best places to find hot kinky queer porn and it’s a totally ethical porn site (and DVDs too) as well. In fact, Shine Louise Houston who is the director and creator of the series is my next interviewee for Ethical Pornographer.

If you don’t have a membership sign up now through December 1st with promo code 14E and get 10% off. If you want to watch the movies with us you’ll have to have a level 2 membership or higher which grants you access to flicks instead of just pics.

For more info on the episodes we’re watching check out Sinclair’s breakdown.