Just a quick reminder that I will be doing my last Chicago workshop (while I’m still living here) tomorrow night at Early to Bed. Come out and learn about the magical g-spot and female ejaculation. Last I checked there were still spots open.
There is this woman who comes into Early to Bed. She isn’t really a regular like the ones who come into the shop so often that they always need to ask what’s new. In fact, it took me awhile to recognize her as coming in a few times, but she is one of my favorite customers.
At first I misjudged her. I try not to be judgmental, but I do that kind of self-defense judgment of people where I’m always on the lookout for people who may be offensive or judgmental themselves. So if you look like you belong in a frat I will probably assume you’re a beer drinking douchebag until you prove me otherwise. I never said I was perfect.
So at first I misjudged her. The first several times she came in her hair was blonde, now it is brunette. She used to look like a sorority girl and with that slight southern accent of hers and her classic good looks I thought she would be a giggly girl with not much knowledge of the sexual world. It is people like her that remind me that I should not judge others.
It took me a few times to recognize her. All I realized about her the first few times is that she looked familiar. It probably took til the 3rd or 4th time of her coming in for me to remember that she is incredibly awesome. She is so open about her’s and other’s sexuality. She does not judge. She is extremely curious about experiences outside of her own, but not in an othering way. She just genuinely is interested in people. And she’s nice. She’s so nice.
This past weekend she came into the store with a man. Apparently this man had some history at the shop as well, but I do not ever remember seeing him previously. But you knew he had to be an incredible guy once you found out that he was married to her. This intelligent sweet woman. And he did not let me down.
They both wandered around the store sometimes talking to each other, sometimes talking to me and my coworker. Always having such engaging conversations about things they enjoyed, but never getting too personal as some customers seem to do. It was always light and fun. He enjoys ass play. They love watching queer porn. They want to see more real couples in porn. They read erotica together. He is extremely interested in any sort of theatrical works and therefore must watch The Curse of MacBeth.
Both of them so comfortable in their sexuality. Both of them in what appeared to be an egalitarian loving relationship.
As they left the store both my coworker and I found that we had smiles on our face. We decided that they should win the best couple award if there was one.
Hey Chicagoans (sorry to those of you who aren’t from Chicago)! Early to Bed is having a couple of exciting events coming up next week. You should come out to both if you can make it.
On Tuesday July 13th at 7:30PM I will be giving my last Chicago workshop before I move. The topic is the g-spot and female ejaculation. It promises to be a lot of fun. Please pre-register either online, by phone, or in person. $15/$10 low income. There are lots of spots still open.
On Friday July 16th there will be a benefit for the Chicago Abortion Fund (CAF) 7-pPM. There will be snacks and drinks and 15% of all purchases will be donated to CAF
Check out this interviewEssin’Em did with me when I was out in Arizona a couple of months ago to present at Fascinations. Note to self: Slap knee less.
Hey Chicagoans, or those of you who may be visiting Chicago during these times, here are a couple of events featuring the always awesome me:
Tomorrow at U of C there will be a documentary about Early to Bed which is the sex shop I work at. I get interviewed a bit in it and I swear that gap in my teeth isn’t that bad in person! In fact, come look at it after the movie and let me know because I’ll be there. The details:
Date:
Thursday, June 3, 2010
Time:
6:00pm – 8:00pm
Location:
University of Chicago, Cobb Hall Rm. 307
Street:
5811 S. Ellis Ave.
This event is open to all and is free. Snacks will be provided.
On July 13th I will be giving my last workshop in Chicago before I move out west so you should all come. I’ll be talking about the g-spot and female ejaculation, which are both topics close to my heart. The class will be at 7:30pm at Early to Bed and it’s $15/ $10 for students and low income. Please register in advance by calling: 773-271-1219, ordering online, or coming into the store.
Warning: The following is a rant in which I do not talk much at all about sex, but instead reveal my left-leaning views. As if you were surprised that I was a lefty! Also, because it’s kind of ranty it doesn’t always flow as nicely as it should. Tough!
In response to the whole Eden Fantasys debacle I’ve found a lot of people who have left comments either for or against them who say things along the lines of “they’re a business and they can do whatever they want.” When exactly did we start having that mentality? Shouldn’t we expect more from the businesses we support? They are there to serve us really. And yet they’re expected to only serve themselves. They’re expected to poison us until they’re told not to. They’re expected to pollute our environment until they’re told not to. They’re expected to use slave labor until they’re told not to.
Some seem to think that the biggest reason that EF was in the wrong was because they purported to be the sex shop you can trust. But if you don’t think businesses are trustworthy then why would you take their word for it? Sounds like a world of hurt.
Seriously, why do we accept that businesses will be conniving for profit? Why are they allowed to throw tantrums when people try to do anything to regulate them – even if they were in the wrong in the first place? Hello bank failures anyone? Plummeting economy? Remember that?
We have given businesses too much freedom. They need to answer to society. Otherwise they will destroy society and our planet. Has anyone even been paying any attention to BP and that horrific oil spill?
What is this? The industrial revolution? We passed laws to protect employees and consumers and yet people are still being poisoned by their sex toys because they are unregulated.
Can you tell I don’t believe in the “free market?” The free market allows for businesses to screw everyone over. Without regulations people die and the earth suffers. We need to push our government for legal regulations. Failing that, we have to try to self-regulate and vote with our dollars. This is extremely difficult, especially for people who have lower incomes or none at all. And it all ends up being kind of cyclical. People can only afford to shop at Walmart because they buy from Walmart which drives the economy downwards.
I try to vote with my dollars when I can, but I don’t make much money and I have a wife who is in grad school. Plus with the fact that I work pretty much constantly, I’m limited in how much research I can do and how much time I can spend searching out products and services I can believe in. I realize a lot of people have this problem. I also realize that a lot of people don’t care because they don’t understand how it all affects them.
Anyways, my goal is to make the world a little bit safer. A friend and I are currently working out a system in which to certify the ethical conduct of adult business. I will say more when we get closer to launch. I’m just full of surprises! ;)