You should subscribe to the RSS feed. Have a question? Ask me anything.Thanks for visiting!  Q: What would you recommend for a first g spot dildo? I’ve only experimented with bullets before and I don’t like how flimsy they’re built or their lack of power. Any advice would be appreciated.
A: As with any firsts, I tend to recommend that people start on the cheaper side to see if they enjoy the type of stimulation that that particular toy provides, and to learn more about what they really want in a toy of that type. It’s also a good idea to go for something with a lot of versatility so that you can find out for yourself exactly what it is your like and what you don’t like.
The qualities you look for in any g-spot stimulator will be a pronounced curve with which to stimulate the g-spot, and firmness. Most g-spots prefer a firm touch, not a light tickle. But that doesn’t mean you have to start beating at it with steel. A firm silicone should do the job as well.
But I’m a little confused here because you’re asking about dildos and then you mentioned vibrating bullets. Dildos, in general, don’t vibrate. Although, some come with bullets that you can place inside of them so that they do vibrate. If the usual one speed bullet doesn’t do it for you, there is the option of using other bullets that are a similar size. The RO-80mm Bullet Vibe packs a bit more of a punch than the standard bullet that comes with dildos, but it’s still cordless. If you want a vibe that is going to be even stronger you’re going to have to start looking at cords, but I warn you that you should never pull the vibe out of the dildo by it’s cord as that will break it very easily. The Turbo Bullet is a great option for a vibe that will fit in a standard vibe hole in your dildo. It’s a heck of a lot stronger than the standard vibe and has a few different speeds.
G-Spot Dildos
There are a lot of great g-spot dildos on the market and the favorites tend to be pricier, but since we’re just starting out we’re not looking for anything expensive. I suggest you try:
- Rose G-Spotter- A glass toy which will give you the pressure your g-spot wants. It has a pronounced curve which will make finding your g-spot easy and a handle so you don’t lose your grip. If it turns out you don’t enjoy g-spot stimulation, you can use the other side as a dildo as well! That’s what I call versatile. And at $38 it’s very affordable. Does not vibrate.
- Ella – This is my favorite g-spot dildo. It’s made of a firm silicone and it’s flat head on a curved angle keeps constant contact with your g-spot. A sensation that is unlike most other g-spot toys which just kind of scratch the surface. Plus it’s made by Lelo so you know it’s high quality. You can also use both sides of this toy. I personally find that it’s nice to warm up with the straight end and then get off with the curved side. This one is $44. Does not vibrate.
- Gee Whiz – If you already have a Hitachi Magic Wand this may be the perfect option. It’s a silicone g-spot dildo that fits over the head and give you the powerful vibrations that you desire. $50
There are other great g-spot dildos, some that vibrate and some that don’t, but I was trying to stick to $50 or less. So if you’re willing to spend more then great, but for a first time toy, I wouldn’t go crazy.
G-Spot Vibrators
Here are some of the less expensive, but still good quality g-spot vibes on the market that are great for newbies:
- Orchid G – This is an insanely popular vibrator, and for good reason. At $22 it won’t break the bank and it works great for internal and external stimulation. If it turns out you don’t like g-spot stimulation from a vibrator, this is great for using clitorally and can be great for partner sex because it easily fits between two people with it’s long handle. It’s hard plastic so it’s not the awesomest of toys and will get louder over time, but it is what it is. Plus, if you want to read up on g-spot stimulation and get this toy you can save by getting the G-spot Kit. With 2 AA batteries, this vibe is relatively strong as well.
- Venus - This is a great G-spot vibe if you want a bit softer of a texture than the Orchid G can provide. It says it’s silicone which is probably true, but I doubt it’s a high quality medical grade silicone given the manufacturer. Still, at $30 it’s inexpensive and has variable vibration speeds with a g-spot curve.
- Briana – This is a g-spot toy for those who prefer a bit more girth. It’s made out of a softer plastic that is phthalate free, but I’d still recommend using a condom with it since it is porous which means bacteria can harbor in it. The vibrations on this one are a bit rumblier than the other two mentioned. This one is also $22 and totally affordable.
And be sure to use plenty of lube! A thinner lube that glides easily may be your best option. I suggest Sliquid H2O with all toys or Sliquid Silver with non-silicone toys.
Every so often one must go through a purge. Because I have so many sex toys I have to get rid of them from time to time. Above is a crappy cellphone pic of all the toys I am sending off to be recycled. I realize that what I am getting rid of is bigger than most people’s entire collection. But the truth is that I think I bought only one or two of those toys. I am a choosy buyer and will normally only get toys that I know I will really like.
Some of these toys have very fond memories and some of them have only been used once or twice. One has never been used (damn duplicates). A couple are the only vibes my wife brought into our relationship. They have never been used since we moved in together. After all, why would she want to use those when she has access to my entire collection? Most of the toys were given to me for review, but keep in mind that just because I don’t like something doesn’t mean you won’t. And truth be told, I did really like some of these, but I’ve replaced them with better toys. Or maybe my vagina has just gotten pickier.
I thought I had a lot more to get rid of, but I purged most of the worst toys (jelly awfulness) in the last go around.
I am a little reluctant to get rid of the green silicone g-spotter dildo, but it has a taint tapper and as aag said recently, I am delicately tainted.
 The Mystic Wand attachment looks pretty funny. I mean look at it. It’s kind of ridiculous. But it serves to make a good thing better and in the end that’s what really matters, not it’s looks.
This attachment, while designed for the Mystic Wand, also fits the Acuvibe Mini. Which is why I got it in the first place because I had the Acuvibe Mini and not the Mystic Wand. Although to be completely thorough I then went out and purchased a Mystic Wand as well. I’m glad I did because the attachment feels completely different on the two toys.
But lets start with the nitty gritty first. The attachment is meant to fit snugly over the head of the Mystic Wand and you can really use any side of it. But you’re obviously meant to focus on the side with the protrusion and tiny teeth since that is what differs most from the Mystic Wand itself. The insertable part is not very long (a little under 3″) as it is really meant to hone in on your g-spot which is located only a couple of inches inside the vagina. And that toothy part is supposed to hug and vibrate your clit. The whole thing is made out of silicone which means it is body healthy and can easily be sterilized by boiling or wiping it down with a 10% bleach solution. Only use water based lube with this attachment.
So I first tried the attachment with the Acuvibe Mini (you can read my review of it here and here) and kind of loved/hated it. The internal vibrations were intense no doubt. And if you read my recent review of the Rock-Chick you can understand exactly why I sought this toy out. Intense sure, but all wrong. For some reason it felt like the vibrations were traveling into my butt instead of pinpointing my g-spot. And I can promise you that I know the difference between my butt and my vag so it’s not like I put it in the wrong hole.
The vibrations were also immensely intense on my clit. Wow! The toothy part – that feels nothing like teeth by the way- latched onto my clit. The vibrations may have actually been a bit too intense when combined with the amount of pressure that the attachment put on my clit. I didn’t think I’d ever say that, but there it is.
So with that experience under my belt I decided I needed to try the attachment on the toy that it was meant for, the Mystic Wand. And what a different experience it was! It’s really interesting how the change in head shape between the two toys can make the toy fit on my body completely differently. Which also means that this is really going to vary for all people because everyone’s body is lined up just a bit different. What may work for me won’t necessarily work for you or for Susie J down the street.
The attachment on the Acuvibe Mini felt like vibrations in my ass, but on the Mystic Wand the vibrations definitely did what they were meant to do and pinpointed my g-spot. And because the Mystic Wand has a nice deep rumble to it, the g-spot stimulation felt pretty damn amazing. Only problem was that now the clit attachment did not reach my clit. It was too far down. It seemed so strange that this same attachment which had latched onto my clit previously on a different vibrator was now nowhere near close enough to it for me to be able to have an orgasm. You would really need to have a clit that is pretty close to your vaginal opening in order for this to fit right, which is a bit of a bummer.
However, when I pulled the attachment out and focused the insertable g-spot part onto my clit it was ridiculously intense. I think I may have giggled. Ok, I did giggle. It felt amazing and almost too intense. Did I really say that again? This Hitachi girl was definitely shocked by this attachment and it’s ability to make vibrations so intense that they may have been actually a bit too much for me.
In the end, I probably won’t use this toy for it’s insertable properties since they just didn’t end up working out too well for me. But I will come back to it again and again for the pinpoint vibration on my clit created by the insertable g-spot section. Plus, in my opinion, it just makes the Mystic Wand so much better. I don’t like the ridges that are on the head of the toy and this attachment helps to bypass them for when I want a powerful toy without a cord.
Thanks so much to Babeland for sending this toy out to me for review.
 The Rock-Chick is a silicone dual stimulation vibe, but not like the kind you’re used to. It’s not a rabbit-style vibe like most dual-stim vibes. Instead it is a U-shaped vibrator that hugs the g-spot and clitoris. Or at least that is what it is supposed to do. See the problem with a lot of toys that promise to hug or fit your body don’t work for everyone because everyone’s body is different. And apparently the Rock-Chick wants my clit to be about 2 inches above where it is. You can see my problem.
But in all honesty, even if it did fit my body just right I don’t think I’d like it all that much. Sure, it’s a good quality toy with an interesting design and I like the idea of rocking back and forth on this thing to work my way towards orgasm, but in actuality because it doesn’t fit right and because the bullet vibe doesn’t do it for me, I actually kind of hated this toy. The innovative shape made me think I would like a toy that if I had actually sat down and thought about, I would’ve realized that I wouldn’t like at all.
I need a strong vibrator! Hello! I use a freakin Hitachi Magic Wand for gosh sakes! I’m not sure why I thought a bullet vibe powered by an N battery would somehow do anything for me when I’m used to a plug-in. And what is with the N batteries lately? Is this the new hard to find sex toy battery?
So obviously when I’m getting g-spot stimulation I prefer to have my clit uncovered so that I can get a hitachi on it. The design of the Rock-Chick is such that it covers the clit and therefore I cannot get my hitachi on me. Oh but I did try. And I have to thank the Rock-Chick for teaching me something about my vagina. Just when you thought you already knew all the tricks of your vagina it takes a toy that you don’t particularly like to teach you something.
The vibrator that comes with this thing is actually kind of rumbly for a cordless bullet vibe, but by the time the vibrations get to your g-spot (the vibe rests in the part nearest your clit – which is possibly actually several inches away from it) it’s more like a high pitched buzzy vibration. I always thought I hated vibrators in my vagina, but had been coming around as I tried different ones and seemed to not hate them as much. I HATED the high pitch buzzyness. HATED IT! But when I took the bullet out and tried to access my clit with the hitachi, the deep rumbly vibrations of my plug-in carried through the Rock-Chick and I loved it. So now I know that it’s the buzzy I hate, not the vibrations in general. So now I am on a quest to find hitachi attachments that actually interest me and deep rumbly g-spot vibrators. I have my eye on this and this. So yay! At least the Rock-Chick taught me something, right?
Anyways, just because I didn’t like it doesn’t mean that you won’t. If you prefer buzzy vibrators and have a body that this toy would fit you’d probably love this thing. I’m just not sure how you would know if it would fit your body ahead of time. But the good news is that it is silicone so it is non-porous and fully sterilizable so if you hate it you can clean it and pass it on to someone else to try. That is probably what I will do.
Also, this toy says that it is “partner friendly” but I’m not really sure how that is possible. This is really more of a solo toy unless your partner wants to watch. Not sure how they would join in.
Thanks Babeland for letting me try the Rock-Chick and teaching me something new about my vagina!
 I don’t like the design of most remote vibrators. I tend to think of them as a sort of novelty in the beginning stages of development. There just never seems to be a great way to wear them. The boxes will often direct you to wear the bullet inside of your vagina and while many women enjoy a vibe in their vagina, it’s nowhere near as pleasurable as on their clit. But if they want one on their clit they usually only have the option of either wearing it in their underwear, creating an unsightly bulge and the possibility of it shifting and/or falling out, or getting a pair of vibrating undies which may not be easy to wash and/or only come in “one-size-fits” all undies that only fit very limited sizes.
Babeland has come up with a decent alternative in their Remote Vibe Panty. I say decent because it’s better, but still not perfect. They package a remote bullet with a pair of underwear that actually fits a lot of people. It’s such a simple idea that it is genius and amazing that no one has come up with it before. The underwear has ties on the sides so you can easily adjust the size. Why didn’t I think of that!?! It’s still not going to fit everyone, but it will fit most people at a reported size range of 25-65″ hips. The vibrator fits into a pocket in the undies so that it can nestle up against your clit easily without fear of falling out and is removed easily for washings. So those issues are pretty much solved unless of course your hips are larger than 65″.
The vibrator has quite a range. I first tested it out with my wife at home. She stood at one end of our super long (about 55 feet) apartment and I stood all the way at the other and had no problem turning it on and off from that distance. We then ventured out into the world to test the toy. This is when my wife started to hate me. Apparently she does not like it when her clit is spontaneously vibrated, which made this game a lot less fun. To be fair, it might have been more fun on a romantic date instead of a going away party at a crowded nightclub. By the end of the night she was calling me an asshole when I would turn the vibe on so I don’t think she’ll let me test the romantic thing at this point. Maybe once she forgets that evening in about 6 months to a year she’ll let me try again. Lesson learned.
However, I was able to learn a few things about the vibe despite my wife’s ill mood. The range may be fantastic, but there is no way to tell if the vibe is even on or not from the remote. You can just keep pushing away at the button and have no idea if you are cycling through the 3 vibration speeds or not unless you can gauge your partner’s reaction. That’s pretty much impossible to do when you can’t see their face because you are elsewhere in the club. Other remote bullets do have a screen that tells you what speed you are on, which would’ve come in handy I’m sure.
Another problem is the kind of batteries this toy takes. It takes 4 watch batteries and 1 N battery, which are pain in the ass batteries to find. Although, it seems that the one that Babeland is now offering actually takes 3 N batteries instead. Either way, still a pain in the ass. The Cry Baby remote vibe takes a 12V and 2 AAAs, which are soooo much easier to find. Speaking of batteries, this toy drains them. It is normally a good idea to take the batteries out of your toys to prolong their life, but in this case it is a necessity. Leaving the batteries in while not in use will pretty much guarantee that you will come back to a dead toy.
The good news is that the vibe is super quiet so you should have no trouble wearing it out in public unless you go to a library or something. But even then, people will probably just assume the vibrating is a cellphone.
The details:
The toy is hard plastic with a soft rubber coating. It is porous which means that bacteria can harbor in it. Don’t share this toy unless you’re not actually touching your genitals with it (totally possible if you’re only using it in the undies – just be sure to clean the undies). To clean wipe down with a wet soapy washcloth or spray with toy cleaner and wipe down. The toy is not waterproof so do not run it under water to clean.
The vibe has 3 speeds, none of which are really intense. And, learn a lesson from me, try to only use it on romantic dates.
Gotta say that I love your blog even if I’m not necessarily the intended audience.
I’ve got another question. I’m the “Phil” who loves to use strapons with my wife (Men Wearing Strap-ons). There are lots of strapons on the market. Lately I’ve settled on the Alias 6 inch vibrating strapon, occasionally using Doc Johnson a 7″ vibrating strapon. But I would like to spice it up a bit and get some variety.
What strapons do you suggest? The ones designed as “hollow” don’t suit as I have no erectile issues and generally don’t fit inside which results in a “floppy” or not solid dildo, so I generally stay away from ones designed for men. My partner likes about the 6-7inch mark but needs it to vibrate strongly. What are your picks?
There is no one who is not my intended audience. My hope is that everyone can learn at least one new thing by reading my blog. So believe it or not Phil, you are my intended audience. And I’m very happy that you love my blog.
There are indeed a lot of strap-ons on the market and you sir are using crappy quality ones. I’m sorry to say it, but you’re really getting what you’re paying for. The cheap materials and lack of versatility make for bad quality sex toys. You should actually probably be using condoms with those dildos if you aren’t already. Seriously, you can’t really be sure whats in them. The truth is that the sex toy industry is a mostly unregulated one. Sex toys are deemed novelty items and therefore not intended to be put in your body. Awful, right?
So I can give you my recommendations, but they may end up costing you a pretty penny. But the good news is that the stuff I can recommend is going to last you a lot longer, will be a lot more body safe, and more versatile.
You shouldn’t buy a strap-on, you should buy a harness and a dildo which ends up equaling a strap-on. You should be purchasing a harness that is compatible with many dildos. That way you can vary the cocks without having to have a million and one harnesses. Also, its a lot easier to take care of them if you can separate them. And let me just say that vac-u-lock sucks. Lets just get that out there. They use crappy materials and its basically a trick so you only buy their products since only one company makes them. *breathes*
Okay, that’s been said. Now what I would recommend for a male bodied individual would be the Commando Harness because it leaves room for your junk and because its super versatile and comfy. It comes with 2 different sized O-rings that will hold your super fantastic new strap-on dildo(s). Another option would be the Crown Harness which sits higher up and out of the way of your junk. This one comes with 3 different O-rings which will allow for quite the variety in size of dildo. Or, if you’re anti-leather you can try the Velvet Harness. The cushy backplate comes off easily in order to accommodate more space for your junk. Plus its nylon so it will be a bit easier to take care of.
Now for dildos you really want to be looking for one made out of silicone. They are a bit pricier but they will last a looooong time. Some of them even have lifetime warranties. They’re also non-porous which means bacteria won’t harbor in them and it is a body safe material. This translates to you not needing to use a condom with these bad boys. They are a-ok! Some options of vibrating silicone dildos:
- Buzz is a sleek purple silicone dildo measuring 6.5″x1.5″
- Echo is textured for some more interesting sensations. Size-wise it is the same as Buzz
- Prince is also a smooth silicone dildo, but the hole in the bottom where the vibe goes is bigger than the previously mentioned ones, which makes this one more versatile for using with other vibrators. Prince is also the same size as the previous two.
- Pink Panther is a smooth silicone dildo that looks nothing like a cock if you’re interested in that. It is also a bit shorter and thinner than the previous dildos measuring in at 6″x1.25″
- Leo is a bit heftier of a cock measuring in at 7.125″x1.5.” Leo is a very popular model and resembles a penis a bit more than the other dildos I’ve mentioned so far. I feel like he may actually a bit girthier than the measurements say though.
- Woody is fabulous in red and also looks more like a real penis than some of the others. This guy is a pretty standard 6.5″x1.5″
All of these dildos come with a vibrator although they’re not particularly strong vibes. One of my fellow sex bloggers, Red, recently reviewed a really powerful bullet that is the same size as the standard watch battery vibe that comes with all the above dildos, but is more powerful. Check out her review here. The one thing to keep in mind though is that while it would be more convenient to pull the bullet out of the dildo by its cord, that will shorten its life by a lot so it is inadvisable.
The thing is, is that bullet vibe is extremely expensive. I honestly haven’t seen any bullet vibes that are that pricey (granted I don’t spend much time looking at bullet vibes), but it seems a bit ridiculous. So what I’m thinking is that the regular vibe that comes with the dildo might be okay if your wife held a vibe on her clit while you’re doing her. Not too many women need strong vibrations in their vagina unless they’re not receiving clitoral stimulation. There are tons of vibrators on the market so its difficult to give recommendations since I don’t really know what your wife likes. But luckily Babeland has a great guide for choosing a vibrator. But let me know if you need any more specific recommendations.
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