Ask Garnet http://askgarnet.com Queer sex educator embarking on a new adventure with her wife and two cats. Mon, 25 Jun 2012 21:35:05 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 The Hitachi Comes Back http://askgarnet.com/2012/06/25/the-hitachi-comes-back/ http://askgarnet.com/2012/06/25/the-hitachi-comes-back/#comments Mon, 25 Jun 2012 21:35:05 +0000 Garnet Joyce http://askgarnet.com/?p=1398 A couple days ago I decided to break the Hitachi Magic Wand out of the confines of my closet to use it again. I was expecting  mind blowing orgasms since it had been a month and a half since it’s last use. But that just didn’t happen. Sure, arousal came about a LOT faster, but the [...]]]> A couple days ago I decided to break the Hitachi Magic Wand out of the confines of my closet to use it again. I was expecting  mind blowing orgasms since it had been a month and a half since it’s last use. But that just didn’t happen. Sure, arousal came about a LOT faster, but the orgasms left something to be desired. I had two before I decided to go to the Inspire. I honestly just absolutely love the shape of the two pronged attachment of the Inspire. It works really really well for me. I never thought I’d say this, but in a pinch I think I’ll use my Hitachi as my warm up vibe and the Inspire to cross the finish line … multiple times.

It really all boils down to shape. I love the large head of the Hitachi. I close my legs around it and receive all over genital vibration. It offers a really quick way to get enough blood into my genitals in order to orgasm, but the two pronged attachment on the Inspire surrounds my clit in vibration that is more direct than the Hitachi can offer with it’s giant head. The two pronged attachment fits my body and stimulates me in a totally different way that I’d never experienced before and I just don’t think any other toy on the market right now can replicate.

I thought the Form 2 would be a shoe-in because it has the same kind of idea with two prongs that vibrate on both sides, but the prongs are too close together/not flexible enough and have that weird issue where it feels like they’re pulsing even when the toy is set to straight vibration.

I didn’t expect to come out of this challenge with a new favorite vibrator and had you told me a couple of years ago that CalEx would make a vibrator I love more than my Hitachi I would have scoffed at you. My views towards CalEx have changed leaps and bounds since actually working in this industry, but I’m not sure I would’ve even thought that they’d be able to beat out my beloved Hitachi until May.

A long time ago I gave up on buying/acquiring new vibrators because I thought nothing could beat the Hitachi, but this challenge showed me that we should always continue to try new sex toys while keeping in mind what we like and what we haven’t tried. In other words, keep an open mind, but know what kinds of things get you off.

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The Toy

CalEx has been coming [...]]]> On the last day of the 31 Day No Hitachi Challenge I decided I would try something I hadn’t in very very long while: a battery operated toy. All of the toys used in the challenge thus far had either been rechargeable or plugged directly into the wall for their power source.

The Toy

CalEx has been coming out with a whole bunch of super rumbly battery operated vibes lately and they really peaked my curiosity. The way they rumble makes the vibrator shake in such a way that it kind of acts like the Eroscillator and since I’d had such good luck with the Eroscillator I thought I’d give one of these types of toys a go. I tried the Clitoral Hummer which was by far the cheapest of the options I’ve used in this contest and goes to show that you don’t need to drop a ton of cash in order to get something good.

The Fodder

The wife helped out on this one again. Biggest success of this challenge = more sex, higher libido.

Thoughts

My arthritis got in the way of any orgasms that could’ve happened with the Clitoral Hummer. The vibrations felt good and I think eventually I would’ve gotten there, but the shaking of the entire toy really hurt my arthritic wrists. If I continue to use this toy I’ll probably just use it as a warm up for about 5 minutes and then move on so I don’t injure myself. This has however turned me off of this line of toys. While the vibrations feel great on my clit, they don’t feel good on my hands and wrists.

I switched toys towards the end to the Inspire, which I’ve deemed the winner of my challenge.

And here it is June 3rd and I actually still haven’t used my Hitachi. I’m surprised as you. I think I’m going to keep this going a bit longer because I feel like I’m not done experimenting. My libido has definitely increased, but I’m not sure if that’s because I’ve been masturbating way more often than usual or if it’s because I have been using different toys and having to fantasize more. Maybe I should do a 31 all Hitachi Challenge to see which it was.

When I finally do break the Hitachi out from the confines of my closet I am sure it will be amazing, but for now I’m content to keep having fun with other toys.

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The Toy

Because of my love for the two pronged attachment on the Inspire I thought that I would love the Jimmyjane Form 2. I don’t hate it; it did give me 2 orgasms. But it’s not love. Its really a toy that [...]]]> The 23rd day marked the first time I used a new toy during this challenge.

The Toy

Because of my love for the two pronged attachment on the Inspire I thought that I would love the Jimmyjane Form 2. I don’t hate it; it did give me 2 orgasms. But it’s not love. Its really a toy that is best for those who love pulsation – because even on straight vibration it often creates a pulsation.

The Fodder

I really just let my mind wander through sexy images of genitals, oral sex, and all kinds of fucking. It really worked rather well since I was already kind of revved up from a higher libido than normal and sexy dreams.

Thoughts

My orgasms seem to be coming more easily now. I think it’s time to try the Siri again. Also, I cannot wait until this challenge is over so I can have really strong orgasms from my Hitachi. The strength of those might make me want to take more time off from it just so I can have a repeat.

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There was the day when I was totally in the mood and I started to masturbate with the Inspire only to have the headache that had been sitting in the back of my brain to come out full force. For some, masturbation can be a great headache reliever. I, unfortunately, only get worse headaches – and sometimes I don’t have a headache but orgasm will bring it on.

Somehow I managed to forget that at some point during the 31 days I would get my period. How does one forget such things after menstruating for 20 years? For some, masturbation relieves cramping. For me, masturbation brings on cramping.

Then there was last night. Last night was the worst. I had just gotten the Jimmyjane Form 2 to test out and I was totally in the mood, but the arthritis in my hands required a slathering of Ben Gay which was going to go nowhere near my genitals. I’m not a masochist. I really hope I get to use it today, but it’s difficult to take it easy on my hands when my job requires so much computer time.

I was a little worried that the spike in libido had everything to do with my cycle. I almost always finally start to feel sexy right before my period starts because I’ve been off my hormonal birth control for long enough for my own hormones to take over. I’ve been back on the pill for a week and a half now but my libido is still there. It’s not strong, but it’s definitely there. I even had a sex dream last night! It was about the Gilmore Girls, but we can’t pick our sex dreams.

And in other good news, one of the times I masturbated with the Inspire I had STRONG orgasms! It’s the first time in the challenge that this has happened without the aide of my wife. I had them all by myself … and a vibrator.

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The Toy

Out of all of the toys I’ve tried that had not yet given me an orgasm I felt like the Eroscillator was coming the closest. So I decided to focus specifically on it for a few days and kept it plugged in next to my bed. One of the things I really like about this toy, and what makes it a bit more discreet, is that you can remove the attachment and just clean that. No hauling giant vibrators to the bathroom, just a small attachment that can easily fit in a pocket or sleeve. Plus, cleaning a small attachment is SO easy! Those of you who take a toothbrush to your Hitachi know what I’m talking about!

The Fodder

I’ve had a lot of non-success coming up with sexy things to think about. I’ve been distracted with my sore, achey body. But I will try to redouble my efforts here. Part of the problem is waiting too long to masturbate and not getting to it until the end of the day.

Thoughts

I had an orgasm with the Eroscillator! Granted that was with the help of my wife, but that was not something that could be achieved before with the Wahl. But this is a double success because we’ve had sex more often than usual. Masturbating at bedtime is tricky because it’s harder to focus, but it also means we’re more likely to have sex. So I must admit I’m torn.

 

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The Toy

It was time to try the Wahl again. Unfortunately I was unable to find an opened Wahl at work last week and after last night’s use I think I am going to have to actually go into the [...]]]> Or actually maybe a lot of help. Yesterday was Day 5 of my 31 Day No Hitachi Challenge.

The Toy

It was time to try the Wahl again. Unfortunately I was unable to find an opened Wahl at work last week and after last night’s use I think I am going to have to actually go into the warehouse to pull out a new one. Because there MUST be something wrong with mine. That seems to be the only conclusion I can draw because I find the Wahl to be the opposite of a satisfying experience. In fact at some points last night it was actually painful, but I’ll get to that later. In the middle I decided to switch toys and I’m glad I did.

The Fodder

My wife. I guess it’s not really fodder, since we actually made with the sexins. I can definitely report that masturbating every day has risen the libido. I’m forced to think about sex, which is good since I seem to have stopped thinking of it on my own. I know that sounds so weird considering that I work for a sex toy company, but I don’t think about my own sex life. I think about other people’s sex lives and that doesn’t translate. I think about sex toys and their functions which is actually not a sexy thing at all for me. One of the things that makes me good at my job is the fact that I can totally separate myself from other people’s experiences. If I wasn’t able to do this we’d sell a much more limited quantity of sex toys. In fact we’d only sell like 5 vibrators tops … and no rabbits which are top sellers.

Thoughts

Yay sex!

I must say I do not like the Wahl. I feel like I’m committing heresy here. I started with the spot attachment which looks like a nubbin with a ring around it and I just couldn’t feel it. My clit was registering like no sensations whatsoever. So I switched to the knuckle joint attachment which looks like a corner – like a rounded edge of something. I definitely felt a lot more with that, but both good and bad. My clit registered the vibration and was enjoying it, but the edges of the attachment were a little on the sharp side and in order to receive the sensation I wanted from the toy I also was being subjected to these sharp edges on my outer labia. This was frustrating, uncomfortable, and very distracting from the sex.

We couldn’t have that so I traded up for the Inspire and had lots of happy wonderful orgasms. In the future I will probably try to incorporate the Eroscillator or the Siri or something else, but after the frustration from the Wahl I deserved the Inspire. Especially since I knew the wife would be breaking out her Hitachi for herself. Yes, we own two of them.

At this point I think the Wahl may only have one trial left, if that.

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For day four I left it too late again. Not [...]]]> When did masturbation become a chore? When I was 9 I could spend entire days masturbating. It was pretty much my favorite thing to do ever. And here we are at day four of the 31 Day No Hitachi Challenge and it already feels like a chore.

For day four I left it too late again. Not because I didn’t have the time, but because I was procrastinating. As if it was a test I needed to study for or something else not enjoyable.

The Toy

I only had one option left in my arsenal (this will change soon), the Eroscillator. This was another toy that when I acquired it I felt like the Hitachi was spoiling me for all other toys. This one, even in the midst of Hitachi abundance, could get me so close to orgasm, but could never quite push me over the edge. It has a different feeling than most other vibrators because it oscillates instead of vibrates and it’s also pretty much the ugliest vibrator ever made. I’m really not sure why they couldn’t have made it look much nicer.

Thoughts

By the time I used it last night I just didn’t have much hope of getting off, nor was I even able to come up with any sort of fantasy. I tried a few, but I just didn’t have it in me. So in other words, last night I masturbated because I HAD to. That’s a sad statement.

But it did not have a sad effect, in fact it was quite the opposite. I used the Eroscillator for 8 minutes and then gave up. However, I noticed a marked increase in my libido afterwards. Had I had any energy I would’ve wanted to start again. Had my wife and I both had the energy I definitely would’ve wanted to have sex. I had that tingling feeling in my genitals that so rarely happens any more and is just one of the many symptoms to my loss of libido. The Eroscillator seems to be a great kick starter. Also, it just feels really good in general so I will definitely continue to use it throughout this 31 day challenge.

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The Toy

I had been considering doing this challenge for a year at least, but didn’t have the guts until I tried the Pink Inspire. The orgasms were weaker than with the Hitachi, but they were possible. I needed a safety net. I mean did you really think I was willing to masturbate for 31 days straight with no promise of orgasm? That just sounds like a killing spree waiting to happen.

I had planned on using this toy later but, this seemed like the necessary time to break out the Inspire.

The Fodder

With my wife laying next to me in bed this was trickier than usual. If I fantasize about her then it gets frustrating because SHE’S RIGHT THERE and WHY CAN’T SHE BE TOUCHING ME NOW!?!? Well, because she was tired and her back hurt. So I tried to imagine other fantasies involving me and someone else (real, imagined, or faceless). This did not work because I still felt like if I was involved in the fantasy it would be so much better if I was actually doing it. Masturbating next to someone who is not paying much attention has always left me feeling frustrated which is one of the reasons I like the Hitachi – I don’t have to fantasize; it just gets the job done.

So I let my mind wander, trying to pick out other things that turn me on. And then there it was. I can’t believe I’d never spent any real time here before, but it was glorious. Captain Jack Harkness and Spike. Not older James Marsters (Captain John) who actually does makeout with Captain Jack (which is hot too), but actual William the Bloody. Captain Jack and Spike kissing passionately, rubbing their bodies against each other, sucking each other’s cock. Oh god it was amazing and just what I needed. Is there fanfic of this somewhere? There really should be.

Thoughts

All in all it took me about 10 minutes and I had 3 orgasms. They were much stronger than I remembered having with the Inspire previously. I’m sure that 2 days of masturbating with no result made that possible. I wanted to keep going. I usually prefer to have around 5 orgasms, but the Inspire started to get really hot and it was too cold in the bedroom to remove the blankets.

What I really like about the Inspire is the power, of course, but also the two pronged attachment. It delivers vibrations in a way that I’ve never experienced with the giant head on the Hitachi. Of course now all I can think though is that I need a similar attachment for my Hitachi. I need to break the addiction!

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The Toy

Today’s choice was the Siri, Lelo’s most powerful vibrator to date. I bought this vibe a couple years ago because [...]]]> It’s Day 2 of the 31 Day No Hitachi Challenge. I worked from home today which meant I had a little more time to spend and a little less on my mind. Does that equal success?

The Toy

Today’s choice was the Siri, Lelo’s most powerful vibrator to date. I bought this vibe a couple years ago because I didn’t own any Lelo vibes and it felt like a right of passage I was missing out on. I owned the Ella dildo and loved it, but Lelo is best known for their luxury vibrators. I had to see what I was missing out on. In that time I used it once and decided that it wasn’t powerful enough. I had eyed my Hitachi with disdain for making it impossible to enjoy this toy so it seemed like a natural pick for the challenge.

The Fodder

The original plan for today was to watch My Own Master which, while I haven’t seen ALL of it, I had declared to be THE BEST PORNO EVER MADE. Because if there’s one thing in this world that could get me aroused enough it would definitely be the first scene in this flick. This is where I experienced deep horrible painful disappointment. The disc was nowhere to be found and I concluded that I must’ve left it in my old desktop which I gave to Best Buy for recycling. I don’t know if I will ever recover from this pain.

So I went searching through my other porn and found one I hadn’t watched yet, but promised great things: Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Female Orgasms. I trust Tristan to provide me with hot sex and she did deliver. I watched the scene with Dylan Ryan and Mr. Marcus. Now I must admit that since I’ve moved to California and met many of my favorite porn stars it’s gotten a little weird to watch them fuck. I’m not friends with Dylan, but I have partied with her and spent some time chatting with her. And for how amazing she is in porn, she’s like a goddess in real life. I don’t know that I’ve ever met a fiercer femme. So it’s a little weird, but I worked past that for the sake of science*.

Dylan’s pleasure and orgasms were intense thanks to Mr. Marcus, a bit of lube, an njoy Eleven, and a Hitachi Magic Wand. The latter of which you can imagine put a bit of a damper on my experience. Jealous!

Thoughts

I spent about 50 minutes masturbating today, starting slow and working my way up. I did not cum, but I did come close. There is a very intense few minutes between Dylan and Mr. Marcus that facilitated getting me very close. I identified with Dylan so hard: her moaning, her movements, it felt like that could be me. However, to get that close I did have to use a dildo. The Siri just did not provide me with the kind of power that I’m used to. And actually, if we’re being honest here, my clit never felt all that close to orgasm. My g-spot was ready to pull it out, but needed a little extra oomph in the clit department to push me over the edge. It never happened. And by the end I felt a little sick, but I didn’t have the hard clit spasming like I had yesterday which was a relief.

I do feel like my libido is pickup up a bit overall so that’s good news. I’m not frustrated yet, but there’s always tomorrow.

 

*Yeah, yeah, not really science. I feel like I have to make that disclaimer since I’m married to a scientist.

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The Toy

For Day One I decided to use the Wahl. It seemed appropriate since this style of vibe was my very first and when I was younger always worked reliably. The Wahl is a blogger favorite. It’s a cheap, powerful, quiet, well-made vibe. But while I was using it I found myself wondering if mine just isn’t as powerful as it should be. I remember there being a lot more power in my first vibe, but memories are tricky things. I will have to check the power of another Wahl when I am in the office on Thursday. After all, mine has been sitting around unused for a few years.

The Fodder

Normally when I use a Hitachi I can just let my mind wander. I rarely think about sexy things. I just let my body go through the stages of orgasm with little to no effort on my part. This is probably not going to work with other toys, at least not at first. I tried thinking sexy thoughts, but I went to the office today which means my mind is filled with work as well as the Occupy protests going on in Oakland. My walk home from the BART included 2 boarded up banks, spray painted anarchy symbols, and the sound of helicopters overhead. So my mind was not supplying the sexy times even though I had a pretty sexy dream last night.

I turned to my phone for stimulation. The first thing that came to mind to search for was Spike/Buffy (Spuffy) fanfic. I’ve never really read fanfic before, but oh how the sex scenes in BtVS turn me on. Mmmm Spike. Even looking for the fic sparked my libido up a bit. I began to read and get into the story, but then I got a text from my wife that had to be answered right away. Phones aren’t the best tools for masturbation when you could get interrupted at any moment.

Thoughts

I spent 28 minutes with a vibrator between my legs and I didn’t even get close to orgasm. It felt good, but I didn’t even feel much of a rise at all. Most rise was from thoughts of Spuffy. Because there wasn’t much rise there also wasn’t much frustration. If I’m close to the edge, but I just can’t seem to get over it that’s when I expect it will get really frustrating. What I did notice was after I took the vibe away my clit was spasming HARD. Every few seconds I’d feel a jolt. It was not pleasant and slightly painful. This sometimes happens after sex although not usually this hard. It took about 5 minutes to stop. Besides this bit of annoyance day one hasn’t been so bad. Only 30 left to go.

I think tomorrow will be easier. I will be working from home so I’ll have a bit more time to get in the mood instead of rushing in the door to masturbate before I cook dinner.

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